lazygood4nothinbum
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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Here's a sticky issue. I know that this process demands a certain amount of trust but in case you wanted to verify someone's identity I wonder how you could ask someone to do so? I'm thinking that I might want to make sure that a guy was who he said he was. Ask for his place of employment? Ask for personal reference?
how good are you at stalking? if you didn't get just a cell phone or unlisted number, you can reverse look-up to match with a name & physical address. or simply stealthly follow the guy home to get his address. then you google. you do sex offender check. you check county records to see if he rents or owns & if so what he paid & when. you run a criminal records check through any various person finder web site. if he hasn't put a lock on his driver's license record, you might even be able to get a copy with his picture. if, early on, you can manipulate him into revealing his workplace, you can call their human resources department to confirm. if he owns a biz you check with your state division of corporations.
that all depends on your level of paranoia and curiosity.
what research without years of just taking your chances with personal involvement won't tell you is not who this person might or might not be today, but who they might be tomorrow. and that can be more upsetting than anything you might find out about a person today.
i've had four people close in my life who either fooled me or changed so much during the course of our five, 15, 22 & yes, even 50 years of life together that they became people who, had only i known, i'd never have allowed into my life in the first place and no amount of googling would have saved me that grief.
either way, you're taking your chances. rule #1a: better to take your chances with getting hurt than hurting because you haven't taken your chances.