We? Thought you live alone. An SO you are not telling us about here?
Nope....I share the old family homestead with my elderly Mom. She needs to have someone around for assistance, as she can't lift or carry much, and being quite short, she can't reach higher than about the bottom shelves of upper kitchen cabinets...and she is
NOT going to be climbing on step stools, chairs, or ladders...a little too unsteady. She's also not able to tackle maintenance or repairs. So she has run of half the house, and I have run of the other half.....we normally share meals together, but otherwise we have our own "spaces", schedules, activities, and what-not, so we tend not to see a lot of each other all that much.
When I'm home, except for eating and sleeping, I spend almost all of my time in the gardens, or in my workshop, or out in my hobby room attached to the workshop. When she's home, she spends most of her time out on the patio (weather permitting), or in the house working puzzles, reading, surfing the internet, watching craft shows or movies on TV, or doing other indoor stuff. But since she's active, there's not a lot of indoor time.
She's always on the go (by herself or with friends)....the gambling boat at least once or twice a month, plays, concerts, AARP functions, bingo, senior center activities, the library, etc. My siblings, nephews, and nieces refer to her 'Granny Go-go' because she's always off and running somewhere! If the weather's nasty out, and she wants to go somewhere, I'll drive her....like doctor appointments, shopping, and of course, to go catch the bus to the afore mentioned gambling boat. Plus I take her to Florida every year for 2 or 3 weeks.....and just like around here, we share quite a few meals together, but she has her friends and activities there, and I have mine, so we don't see a lot of each other there either.
She pretty much takes care of the indoor stuff like cleaning and laundry, mainly because she actually enjoys doing that. And I take care of all the outdoor stuff like lawn and garden work, as well as all the maintenance and upkeep on the old place (inside & out). We share grocery shopping and cooking duties.
The whole arrangement works out well for both of us.