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"There there dear, I'm sure you will."
Well that sounds gender neutral to me.
"There there dear, I'm sure you will."
Well that sounds gender neutral to me.
Same here-especially my present DW she would have their guts for gartersI've been divorced once, widowed once, and am now lucky enough to be in the best relationship of my life.......and I certainly wouldn't have wanted to be the guy who felt free to condescend to any one of them.
"Let me 'splain somethin' to ya, little lady".
As a tall man, I have the opposite problem. Frankly I have no clue and no aptitude for anything that involves home improvement, although I do try small things around the house. When I end up at Home Depot half my questions get looks like "how could you possibly not know that?".I've always called it the "Little Lady" treatment. Even when those words are not used, the tone, manner, and word choice often imply them. Even when I'm taller than the guy.
The loathsome word "dear" has entered the conversation, but I dismiss that as a southernism. This is not my first time living in Florida. I got "dear" as a young woman and now I get it as an old one. Sigh.
Anyway, I deal with it as I always have (my work culture was male-dominated, too, although that had started to change). I keep in mind my real goal, which is to elicit information, not to prove myself. Significant silence; one skeptical eyebrow raised to the roof. Then, I ask lots of questions. If the responses are intelligent and useful, my thanks are profuse.
I wonder if small men have to deal with some of this patronizing nonsense, too?
When I end up at Home Depot half my questions get looks like "how could you possibly not know that?".
Replacing the filament is hard, but pulling a full vacuum in the globe is really a trick.............
He thanks me, and pulled out the burned out bulbs to see if I wanted them. He honestly thought there was some sort of refurbishment that could be done, didn't realize it was a throwaway item once it burned out.
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Thanks for the story. I grew up in a home where my father and uncles were all handy. As a kid I was using a wood lathe and an electric drill.
When I grew up and went out into the world, I was shocked that not everyone was handy.
Dear Walt, your story of being in the crawl space reminded me.I had a similar upbringing/experience. My father was an electrician and did side jobs on the weekends for "beer money". The first dollar I earned was at the age of five pulling cable in a crawl space he couldn't fit in, by ten I was wiring electrical outlets (under close supervision of course) doing plumbing jobs and by 14 was helping to overhaul car engines. It wasn't until I started working in a gas/service station in HS that I realized how unusual that exposure to tools and "fixing stuff" was.
Our dryer had stopped working and my wife was desperate to get something dry ASAP!
I tried the knobs, buttons and other controls, checked the circuit breaker and plug and could find nothing obvious. I started to close the dryer door and I noticed something odd. The interior light was staying on with the door nearly closed. Normally, it turns off a split second before full closure. The door switch! Sure enough the door switch was broken in the door open position which stopped all dryer functions. A bit of tape held it in place long enough to get her wash dried.
Later she asked me how I managed to figure it out. “Is there some secret stuff dads teach only to their sons?”
After I watched the a/c guy use my shop-vac to clean out the drain pipe on an outside unit that had stopped working, I tried it for myself when the same thing happened again 6 months later, and the unit started working again.
I mentioned this during the semiannual a/c inspection, and got a compliment for being so smart! Now, I wonder if a man would have gotten the same compliment?
"If the women don't find you handsome,
they should at least find you handy"
- Red Green
After I watched the a/c guy use my shop-vac to clean out the drain pipe on an outside unit that had stopped working, I tried it for myself when the same thing happened again 6 months later, and the unit started working again.
I mentioned this during the semiannual a/c inspection, and got a compliment for being so smart! Now, I wonder if a man would have gotten the same compliment?
I mentioned this during the semiannual a/c inspection, and got a compliment for being so smart! Now, I wonder if a man would have gotten the same compliment?