BunsGettingFirm
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Good advice, Nords, but how do you judge when you have stayed too long and are no longer on any track to something bigger and better?
Well, yeah, that cuts right to the heart of my credibility. The military very obligingly tells you when you've overstayed your career welcome. Reading the phrase "Best wishes on your future endeavors" in a naval message has stricken fear & trembling into the heart of many a warrior.BunsOfVeal said:Good advice, Nords, but how do you judge when you have stayed too long and are no longer on any track to something bigger and better?
Nords said:As for school & family-- nothing motivates you toward getting those advanced degrees & skills (or advanced whatever) like having a family. Nothing can support you & help you like their love & loyalty, either. Erma Bombeck used to say that people get married so that they can worry about money. It's all too easy to become so focused on getting things done before you acquire family responsibilities that you keep on doing things and somehow never get around to the acquisition step. Achieving goals as a team is what makes the whole family thing worthwhile.
So perhaps your current career/job is a good place to relax, look around at how you can help, network with a group of people that can use your help while exposing you to other skills & opportunities, and maybe even introduce you to your future spouse. When the right opportunity presents itself then you'll be more than ready to recognize it.
I think it was Jarhead who commented on the seemingly desperate urgency of some Young Dreamers to blitz through a couple of the best decades of their lives so that they could ER. It's not a sprint-- it's a marathon. If you start the pace at a five-minute mile then you won't even make it to the turnaround.
Martha said:Jay, I heard part of a show on public radio yesterday and the guest was a psychologist that wrote a book on "performance addiction". He talked a lot about how some people are never satisfied with their work performance, excercise performance, etc. and always push and push themselves to higher levels. Though they often are quite successful, they are not happy. One solution he mentioned was to spend more time thinking of others rather than yourself. It looks like you have figured this out on your own.
Nords said:It could be the same in your situation, too. Maybe instead of being so focused on the express lane to your next job it'd be worth spending more time digging into your current one. Joining a professional or community or service association (like the Rotary or Toastmasters) might be a seemingly unrelated career step that'd actually help you broaden your contacts & exposure while seeing others in their career fields. Another poster here recommended becoming the office's Excel & Powerpoint geek so that you're always involved in helping (those who desperately need it) while being able to keep an eye on new projects. You'd need these skills in just about any field, let alone energy, so why not develop them now instead of trying to find the "right career" right away.
As for school & family-- nothing motivates you toward getting those advanced degrees & skills (or advanced whatever) like having a family. Nothing can support you & help you like their love & loyalty, either. Erma Bombeck used to say that people get married so that they can worry about money. It's all too easy to become so focused on getting things done before you acquire family responsibilities that you keep on doing things and somehow never get around to the acquisition step. Achieving goals as a team is what makes the whole family thing worthwhile.
We used to move a lot in the Navy (19 moves in 20 years between the two of us) and it's not easy. But being in the Navy meant that we had common ties with the people at our new duty station and we might even have served with some of them before.soupcxan said:Thanks for the input Nords...I WISH I could belong to local community groups and have a family, but being forced to relocate every 6 months (and then every 18 months once I finish this program, if you want to keep moving up the ladder) makes that extremely difficult. Hence my desire to get out at some point in my 5-year plan.
The company I'm considering going to wants to do a 2 hour interview with 3 people. GEEZ!
Brat said:Laurence:
At this point, and in your situation, you should be interviewing them.
Remember, this stage is akin to a courtship. The marriage can be something entirely different.
I strongly second Brat's counsel. Have your own series of questions to assure yourself they have tangible evidence of being able to deliver on what your current employer can not.Brat said:Laurence:
At this point, and in your situation, you should be interviewing them.
soupcxan said:Thanks for the input Nords...I WISH I could belong to local community groups and have a family, but being forced to relocate every 6 months (and then every 18 months once I finish this program, if you want to keep moving up the ladder) makes that extremely difficult. Hence my desire to get out at some point in my 5-year plan.
Why does this company force you to move around so much? I guess they think it builds character. And maybe it does, but I think there are other ways to get there that don't take such a large toll on your personal life.
Laurence said:My work life is getting to be like a soap opera.
REWahoo! said:"The Young and the Restless" or "Another World"?
Probably a good thing. That committee hiring marathon interview could have been just a small taste of the time you'd be spending in meetings learning your new job.Laurence said:Well, interesting update, the "other" company wanted to hire me, but didn't want to pay enough to make starting over worth it.
Maybe they're trying to figure out what kind of new (extra?) assignment to give you for you to educate them on what you've been doing for them. Perhaps a PowerPoint presentation (with soundtrack & laser lights) and a display booth? I think that you should include photos of Tori's birthday and your butt-kicking Wisconsin relatives so that the company realizes that you don't need to be working for them to be able to live your life... throw in a few surfboard pictures... then tell them "But, hey! No pressure!!"Laurence said:I'll admit, for all the wrangling and meetings and drama, I still ain't seen one extra penny (besides bonuses). I'm trying not to hold my breath this time.
Laurence said:Definitely "Young and the Restless"! I'll admit, for all the wrangling and meetings and drama, I still ain't seen one extra penny (besides bonuses). I'm trying not to hold my breath this time.
BunsOfVeal said:Speaking of the "Days of Our Labs", I just found myself in a bit of a problem. The business school I'm applying to insists that one of the references must be from an employer. If I ask any of my current supervisors for a recommendation, then they would know my plans for sure -- I plan to leave work to attend business school full time. Should I ask, or should I ask somebody from a previous job (from almost 4 years ago)?
Buns
Laurence said:Definitely "Young and the Restless"! I'll admit, for all the wrangling and meetings and drama, I still ain't seen one extra penny (besides bonuses). I'm trying not to hold my breath this time.
Brat said:The other department is a better track, remember. And they pay overtime.
I doubt that HR will approve a double pay increase unless your current pay is lower than the bottom of that job's pay range.
The way that pay ranges work is that when you are in the lowest quartile raises (assuming that your company isn't in a pay freeze) come rapidly. Increases slow a bit up through about midpoint +10% (60th%tile). After that they slow a lot unless you are an 'individual contributor' (aka, hot shot).
The best way to grow pay is to get promotions, however, if you receive ovetime pay (and work some) you may be taking home more than your boss with a lot less grief.
EricMD said:All post here is great. yup but you all missing one point. The ONLY way that i see to RE is ...... WORK FOR YOURSELF.
working for a company and put away money in 401k is NOT enough. i worked for the same company for 10 years and mine 401k is only worth 2 years of my salary. my brother 401k is at least ten time his salary...once u work for yourself u can put as much as $40k into your ira and can generate passive income.
that's the way to RE