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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
And if you have neither?...has to be written out and either DH or one of my siblings will have the power of attorney.
And if you have neither?...has to be written out and either DH or one of my siblings will have the power of attorney.
I cannot begin to imagine how lousy and miserable my life would have been had I followed the so-called "life script" and had kids. I would lose all the things I so much treasure by being childfree, starting with my early retirement.
I cultivate my friendships with my handful of very close female friends and try to do favors for them when possible. They do the same for me. If I needed someone to take me for a medical test, it is no problem, and if I needed someone to stay with me short-term here at home for some reason, I would have a couple of volunteers at the ready. My two closest friends are listed on the HIPAA forms as emergency contacts at any doctors I visit and also at the local hospital (my son is the third and last resort ).
This is always more difficult for men, especially married men. If a married man loses his wife late in life, too often there goes his support system, other than children.This is so important as we age . I have my SO but I also have several female friends that I can count on and they can count on me. I can always count on my daughter but she lives a distance from me .
This is always more difficult for men, especially married men. If a married man loses his wife late in life, too often there goes his support system, other than children.
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Good point, some churches also are this way I believe.Unless he lives in a 55 plus community . Then the neighbors usually rally around and help each other and if he's looking for female companionship he has his pick of many women bearing casseroles in search of male companionship.
Unless he lives in a 55 plus community . Then the neighbors usually rally around and help each other and if he's looking for female companionship he has his pick of many women bearing casseroles in search of male companionship.
Not sure what these women want the men for, since we have been told (in other threads) that women who are post-menopausal, lose their interest in sex!
Amethyst
As the Brian Jack zydeco song goes, believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see. So unless you have been naughty with some older couples, you'll just have to wait and see for yourself I suppose. Et toi!Not sure what these women want the men for, since we have been told (in other threads) that women who are post-menopausal, lose their interest in sex!
As the Brian jack zydeco song goes, believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see.
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The name is None of What You Hear, by Brian Jack and the Zydeco Gamblers. I bought the CD from the band, at a great zydeco festival in Sparks Nevada in 2001. This song really brought down the house, because the rumors were of course flying that weekend! I haven't been able to find it online so that I could link it.I must google that song...what a wonderful line!
For myself, I have a Trust set up that will allow my affairs to be taken care of by a local bank that has a Trustee department set up for this very reason. I wrote in "not to exceed" clauses to keep the cost of trust management under control. My trust attorney (and Successor Trustee) is approx 10 years younger than I am. Either he (or a partner in his law firm) or the bank can be appointed as Successor Trustee if conditions warrant.
I felt better going with this route than entrusting my welfare to my siblings. The things I heard them say with my own ears and their behavior toward my Mom in her final days was more than enough to convince me I was better off without their interference. Not to say that they won't try anyway. My Trust specifically prohibits that from being allowed, i.e. my explicit wishes will override the usual "next of kin" laws.
All that said, the best part now is grand children
People tell me there's a void without children and the void increases as you age. Personally, I don't feel the void - yet. Should I prepare for the void that is to come and what can I do now to help ourselves?
TAnd, no decision is probably greater in life than the one regarding to have children or to not.
And as I'm sure all are aware, the decision is not always up to folks! Infertility is a big problem for many. Adoption is not always practical, either.
Amethyst
+1. Infertily, miscarraiges and sickness - many times even though we give nature a helping hand, still may not work. Adoption is not something every one - culturally or racially, can accept sometimes.