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I try to follow mom's advice, and treat siblings/kids equally when it comes to gifts and money.
Spouse and I watch in law's finances. Once or twice a year I look at the situation and help determine how much to gift to their children and grandchildren. FIL had thoughts about how to do this, but his thinking had a way of actually turning out unbalanced.
For example, he wanted to give a dollar each to kids and their spouses. Since one kid will never marry, she would get a single dollar. Others would get two. So I applied mom's rule, and each child gets two dollars. You can share it with your spouse.
In the next generation and follow, we use the same rule. Each grandkid gets an equal amount. Same for great-grandchildren.
Of course there are other situations that develop, and more thought has to go there.
Spouse and I watch in law's finances. Once or twice a year I look at the situation and help determine how much to gift to their children and grandchildren. FIL had thoughts about how to do this, but his thinking had a way of actually turning out unbalanced.
For example, he wanted to give a dollar each to kids and their spouses. Since one kid will never marry, she would get a single dollar. Others would get two. So I applied mom's rule, and each child gets two dollars. You can share it with your spouse.
In the next generation and follow, we use the same rule. Each grandkid gets an equal amount. Same for great-grandchildren.
Of course there are other situations that develop, and more thought has to go there.