SecondCor521
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Just curious. Please only vote if you are female and were the plaintiff in your first divorce.
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yelnad said:I don't think I could pick any one of those. There were multiple factors.
SecondCor521 said:I thought this might be the case with some people. If you made a list of the reasons and put them in order of importance, what was the #1 reason on the list?
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Fireup2025 said:2Cor521,
I could be very wrong here, but your post almost reads as if you are trying to figure women out?
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HaHa said:A few quotes from the article-
"I am a divorced father who was simply dropped by his wife," e-mailed Curtis from St. Paul, who asked that his full name not be used to protect his children. His "past" wife, as he calls her, has moved away and he does not keep in touch with her. "There was no drug, alcohol, infidelity or abuse reasons. She simply said that I was 'boring' and 'spent too much time with the kids.' Now Curtis' past wife sure sounds mature, doesn't she?
Or, "One reality for men, Chethik discovered in his research, is that marriage is often good enough for them.”But women feel like, if it's not very good and growing and getting better, it's not good enough.""
These quotes illustrate one thing missing from the poll-"I left you because, just because. Nah nah nah nah nah!!”
One plan for a man who wants children is to work very hard in US, stay single, save money and move to the Philippines or wherever and start a family with a young middle class woman there. Or become a Muslim and go to Turkey- not many women walking there.
Then never bring her over here, never get entangled with US law, and be sure you understand the law wherever you decide to settle. Run a grocery or bar, don't act rich.
America is broken for a man who wants to raise a family here. Who wants to try to cater to the weird whims of a menopause addled woman?
A man can't understand women, at least in a way that he will feel good about. And women don't want to bother to understand men, because they are sure that in all important areas their way is the superior way.
Oh yeah, I almost forgot to add--IMHO!
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Moemg said:2Cor521,
It's hard not to know the reason someone leaves but sometimes you'll never know .I divorced my first husband (eons ago ) because I should have never married him in the first place .We are complete opposites.My grown children even ask me why we ever married .In we womens defense usually we try to tell the guy trouble is brewing and then we tell them again and then we tell them again and then we go to a lawyer.So guys pay attention to our complaints before you are handed a summons.
Caroline said:but a while back I got a call from a guy I knew 30 years ago. Said at the time I was the love of his life, but alas, he was not the one for me. Thirty years, one wife and two kids later, he tells me he STILL loves me and wants to see me.
I think the veracity of these divorce survey respondent's quotes is like those of people who "return to work because they're bored & unfulfilled" and "prefer to keep working because they're seeking a challenge".HaHa said:"I am a divorced father who was simply dropped by his wife," e-mailed Curtis from St. Paul, who asked that his full name not be used to protect his children. His "past" wife, as he calls her, has moved away and he does not keep in touch with her. "There was no drug, alcohol, infidelity or abuse reasons. She simply said that I was 'boring' and 'spent too much time with the kids.' Now Curtis' past wife sure sounds mature, doesn't she?
Or, "One reality for men, Chethik discovered in his research, is that marriage is often good enough for them.”But women feel like, if it's not very good and growing and getting better, it's not good enough.""
These quotes illustrate one thing missing from the poll-"I left you because, just because. Nah nah nah nah nah!!”
Nords said:I think the veracity of these divorce survey respondent's quotes is like those of people who "return to work because they're bored & unfulfilled" and "prefer to keep working because they're seeking a challenge".
No one is willing to discuss the truth-- the divorcé can't be lived with and the others don't have enough money. The problem is that it's difficult for the researcher (and impossible for the reader) to ascertain the truth.
I'm not saying that people aren't divorced and/or don't return to work for those reasons, but Occam's Razor tends to cut through the crap being spouted in those situations. And it's a lot easier to stand there looking hurt & confused (or to return to the workplace) than it is to deal with the truth.