fisherman
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My last day with Mega Corp is 1-7-08. On that date I will do the obligatory exit interview. I had planned to just make a few nice comments and leave it at that since I have done all I can to go out on top. So here is the "but" isn't there always one:
We have had six people quit this year in my small department of about 50 people. Turn over in the past has been no existent. The reasons for leaving vary by individual circumstances although there are some common themes. In my case it was reaching FIRE and leaving at the planned date. I might very well have worked another year for padding except that my boss in many ways has been harassing me. I live in a right to work state which my understanding means they can fire you for any or no reason. Given that I have just let the behavior go. I am male so the actions are less problematic than for a female but still wrong and I do not want to see other co-worker experience them.
The actions I find most troubling are two: The first is I am not much over weight but I am not in marathon condition like my boss either although I hope to get closer to that level now. He points this out by grabbing my stomach and shaking in front of other people in my group. One time its a joke and I can let it go but its happened repeatedly. The second is I usually eat a lunch I bring at my desk during our appointed lunch time which is un-paid time. Most people go out but this was part of my FIRE plan. I sit in the back corner of the office and usually face away from everyone else at lunch. I usually bow my head slightly and pray silently before eating so as not to purposefully draw attention. I am a Christian but I have co-workers and my boss who are Atheist and I respect their believes and do not want to offend them. I guess I could have gone out to my car but I am pretty secluded and you would have to be looking to even notice. My Boss will occasionally walk by in the front of the room and notice this. He will then interrupt me or come sit with me and start discussing the foolishness of religion. I am not looking to change him and I would appreciate him allowing me to have my beliefs without be challenged to defended them. Remember he starts the conversation in question and I have tried to make a polite point that I am uncomfortable with that type of discussion.
One last note of importance on the item above. Wen my DW and I lost our daughter two years ago my Boss came to visitation and made a point to wait until several people where gathered around my wife to make the statement that it was natures way of dealing with the situation and was not really a loss. I was not in a state to deal with the comment at the time but it did factor in my decision to leave.
For me the above two issues will end soon but I wonder if I could help my co-workers by reporting it. Given the timing I am inclined to walk out gracefully and let it go. After all according to my beliefs I should turn the other cheek but both are already sore, and yes I know how many times I should turn the other cheek. Also I really do not even want to mention the second item since above all I want to respect others beliefs as well.
Should I reconsider giving any information in the exit interview at all?
I sincerely hope I have not offend anyone with the above summary and question. It was not my intent at all but as you can tell the situation does trouble me.
Thank you for any suggestions you can provide.
We have had six people quit this year in my small department of about 50 people. Turn over in the past has been no existent. The reasons for leaving vary by individual circumstances although there are some common themes. In my case it was reaching FIRE and leaving at the planned date. I might very well have worked another year for padding except that my boss in many ways has been harassing me. I live in a right to work state which my understanding means they can fire you for any or no reason. Given that I have just let the behavior go. I am male so the actions are less problematic than for a female but still wrong and I do not want to see other co-worker experience them.
The actions I find most troubling are two: The first is I am not much over weight but I am not in marathon condition like my boss either although I hope to get closer to that level now. He points this out by grabbing my stomach and shaking in front of other people in my group. One time its a joke and I can let it go but its happened repeatedly. The second is I usually eat a lunch I bring at my desk during our appointed lunch time which is un-paid time. Most people go out but this was part of my FIRE plan. I sit in the back corner of the office and usually face away from everyone else at lunch. I usually bow my head slightly and pray silently before eating so as not to purposefully draw attention. I am a Christian but I have co-workers and my boss who are Atheist and I respect their believes and do not want to offend them. I guess I could have gone out to my car but I am pretty secluded and you would have to be looking to even notice. My Boss will occasionally walk by in the front of the room and notice this. He will then interrupt me or come sit with me and start discussing the foolishness of religion. I am not looking to change him and I would appreciate him allowing me to have my beliefs without be challenged to defended them. Remember he starts the conversation in question and I have tried to make a polite point that I am uncomfortable with that type of discussion.
One last note of importance on the item above. Wen my DW and I lost our daughter two years ago my Boss came to visitation and made a point to wait until several people where gathered around my wife to make the statement that it was natures way of dealing with the situation and was not really a loss. I was not in a state to deal with the comment at the time but it did factor in my decision to leave.
For me the above two issues will end soon but I wonder if I could help my co-workers by reporting it. Given the timing I am inclined to walk out gracefully and let it go. After all according to my beliefs I should turn the other cheek but both are already sore, and yes I know how many times I should turn the other cheek. Also I really do not even want to mention the second item since above all I want to respect others beliefs as well.
Should I reconsider giving any information in the exit interview at all?
I sincerely hope I have not offend anyone with the above summary and question. It was not my intent at all but as you can tell the situation does trouble me.
Thank you for any suggestions you can provide.