Dad will not accept a home care giver other than the one that is exploiting him and we are trying to figure out how to remove. Had the current HHA not poisoned the well, Dad probably could have done quite well with just home care.
My 97 year old dad would "hide" from his once-a-month house cleaner. Any caregiver would quickly get fired. He ran through pharmacists routinely because they were all out to get him.
Still, he was quite competent on most financial matters, kept his house up, remember doctor appointments, etc. But, he absolutely refused to even consider assisted living. I told him "Dad, there will be one last fall where you don't get up and you won't have a choice". He was fine with that. I found him probably 12 hours after that last fall. He lasted another 10 days in the hospital and a couple of days in the nursing home. I always felt he'd have been so much happier the last few years in an assisted living arrangement, but he wouldn't have it and I couldn't force him to go.