Let's see what happens to you when your life is full of outsiders trying to invade your world and force a lifestyle upon you that you do not want. Invaders trying to force their way into my world = hostility from me, not me welcoming them in with open arms. People who expect otherwise are extremely ****ing stupid. If people can't figure out that invasion from outsiders is going to be met with hostility, they're too stupid for high school. I would NEVER make friends with or date any of the garbage that currently surrounds me. They are DISGUSTING. Would you be happy if you were surrounded by outsiders who wanted to invade your world? This isn't a rhetorical question. I am asking you for a yes or no answer.
Well, golly, since you asked, then no, I wouldn't be happy.
However I'd figure out ways to cope with it. For example, instead of ranting and raging at the posters on discussion boards, I might ask for advice that would help-- such asthe Atlantic's article on
Caring For Your Introvert.
I might make a "Miss Manners" effort to be excruciatingly polite to these "invaders" and "outsiders" so that they could pick up the hint that you're not interested in socializing. Perhaps one of the reasons they continue to engage you is because of the interesting responses they're able to evoke.
Or I might decide it's time to leave a job that's making me so desperately unhappy. Part of that decision would be a nagging concern that the "disgusting garbage" by which I'm surrounded might possibly be picking up on subtle hints that I'm finding them difficult to work with.
I'd certainly be visiting Jacob Lund Fisker's "Early Retirement Extreme" board for tips on how to save up to 90% of my income and accelerate my ER. I might even ask posters on this board for that sort of advice.
A disproportionately large number of this board's members (including me) possess an INTJ personality which in general does not socialize well. However I spent 20 years in the Navy's submarine force, "full of outsiders trying to invade my world and force a lifestyle upon me that I didn't want". I found a way to set limits and make it work for my personality. But then I didn't have great places like E-R.org to come to and vent my spleen.
Of course it's possible that you're just enjoying the status quo... in which case feel free to continue behaving like a curmudgeon.