We have gone through periods like this over the years. She has this what I call a "flaw" in which "There is one and only one right way" to do certain things. Hanging up the towels, for instance, is done "with the blue striped portion at the bottom front, not on the back. Otherwise, the pattern doesn't show." I don't disagree, but could care less about showing the pattern that no one will see (in the master bath.)
My grace in this situation is not to argue about it or explain that "it doesn't matter." Her grace is to simply "fix" the towel when I leave the bathroom.
Heh, heh, the flaw that used to drive me nuts: Along with that "There is one right way..." is that, in many case, it becomes "There's only one right way to do it THIS time." It's nothing I can possibly "learn" how to do the "right" way because the right way will be different next time.
IOW if we take our showers together
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or one right after the other, there are two sets of towels which need to dry before placing in the laundry basket. Depending on the situation and what is already hanging on the "old-people-grab-bars in the shower" she'll put one there and another draped across the now empty towel bars. OR, she'll put both out on the laundry dry rack on the lanai. If I drape one across a chair on the lanai, she can't stand it. (A wet towel on a 50 year old hotel-furniture chair made of wicker might damage the wicker.
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Again, my grace is to simply allow her to redo what I have done and not take it personally.
SHE had to "train" me not to leave my shoes and socks in the middle of the floor when I got home. I think that was reasonable, but it took a while for me to understand why it was such a big deal.
It has taken a while, but we have arrived at compromises in our marriage that make it possible to live together. Mostly, we offer each other grace when we disagree -"agree to disagree."
It w*rks for us (mostly.)