Danmar
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
I think you may have missed my point, which is our friends need to have enough wealth to feel comfortable paying their own way doing the kinds of things we like to do. I am thinking mostly of international travel (can be quite expensive) or expensive (or otherwise) restaurants. Of course they expect to pay their own as do we expect to pay our own. My phrase"fighting for the bill" reflects a healthy desire on everyone's part to pay their share, or even a little more. When dining with friends, no one would ever ask for separate bills. we would split it evenly or maybe take turns paying. On the other hand, our family has been frequent beneficiaries of our generosity in relation to travel and eating out. As far as I know most of our good friends are quite comfortable financially based on general conversation, their real estate, autos, and their apparent ability to join us and invite us back. Obviously, we haven't specifically compared net worth nor intend to.While the "opposite may be true" with family (DW's family dynamic is similar), that may indeed be a different case than friends.
In your friends experience, are your friends richer than you are? If not, your example may not be applicable. It sounds like your friends pay their own way, and you pay your own way. Would you expect anything different if your friends were "richer" - if not, it would cost your more...
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