So my brother and I have been talking to our mom about what the future plans are for residency, care, finances, etc.
Last Sunday I was talking with my mom as I do every Sunday just to catch up and we were talking about maybe me and my brother would come out and help with the 'heavy' chores that are getting harder for my folks to do.
And we also talked about using this trip as an opportunity to open a dialog to discuss what their plans are as my mom has some health problems and my dad has what my mom calls 'good days' and 'bad days'.
Well, I guess my dad overheard some of the conversation and my dad was 'livid' to use my mom's words (message left on my phone).
So the trip is off for now until things calm down.
Question is, how should we approach this?
My mom is all for planning downsizing, moving to more convenient services that wouldn't require either of them having to drive anymore, and closer to care.
My dad...well...that's the problem.
Any sage experience or advice from others who have been here before?
Thanks!
Last Sunday I was talking with my mom as I do every Sunday just to catch up and we were talking about maybe me and my brother would come out and help with the 'heavy' chores that are getting harder for my folks to do.
And we also talked about using this trip as an opportunity to open a dialog to discuss what their plans are as my mom has some health problems and my dad has what my mom calls 'good days' and 'bad days'.
Well, I guess my dad overheard some of the conversation and my dad was 'livid' to use my mom's words (message left on my phone).
So the trip is off for now until things calm down.
Question is, how should we approach this?
My mom is all for planning downsizing, moving to more convenient services that wouldn't require either of them having to drive anymore, and closer to care.
My dad...well...that's the problem.
Any sage experience or advice from others who have been here before?
Thanks!