Solo quarantine ~ how is it going?

[irishgal]

I have been confined alone at home for 5 weeks. I am an introvert too and everything is going smoothly. I am using this forced isolation as an opportunity for self-improvement and reflection. I'm determined to emerge from this looking and feeling as good as ever. When life is stripped down to the basics, everything becomes clearer.

So true, about things becoming more clear. Glad all is well for you.

 

[ER Eddie]

I'm doing well. I expected I might feel lonely or isolated, but I don't. It actually feels very natural. In a way, I like it, because it gives me a socially approved reason to indulge my introversion (rather than feeling half-guilty because I'm "isolating").

It helps to have a dog, and to be a dog lover (vs. someone who "has a dog" but keeps him/her out back). I'm not really alone in that sense. I connect pretty well with my dogs. We're new to each other -- I adopted him 6 months ago -- so this has been good for us. Lots of time together, and he's a good companion.

I had some regular social activities before this (e.g., classes, discussion group). I don't miss them, but it will be nice when they can resume, because they are stimulating.

I'm in a modest-sized town without too much of a CV problem, so things aren't as tense and rule-bound as they might be in large metro area. I'm always out taking walks, biking, or driving for "non-essential purposes" such as enjoying the day. Weather has been nice (it would suck if the weather prevented going outside).

I've noticed that, when this began, chats with neighbors were very distant and often involved nearly shouting back and forth. Now it's more relaxed. I just had a chat with neighbors while standing a foot or two apart, petting each others' dogs, with no one worried about six feet or no-touch rules.

Anyhow, I'm doing ok. The main challenge is filling the time without lapsing into one of my favorite time-wasters (e.g., Youtube, social media).

 

[irishgal]

I'm doing well. I expected I might feel lonely or isolated, but I don't. It actually feels very natural. In a way, I like it, because it gives me a socially approved reason to indulge my introversion (rather than feeling half-guilty because I'm "isolating").

It helps to have a dog, and to be a dog lover (vs. someone who "has a dog" but keeps him/her out back). I'm not really alone in that sense. I connect pretty well with my dogs. We're new to each other -- I adopted him 6 months ago -- so this has been good for us. Lots of time together, and he's a good companion.

I had some regular social activities before this (e.g., classes, discussion group). I don't miss them, but it will be nice when they can resume, because they are stimulating.

I'm in a modest-sized town without too much of a CV problem, so things aren't as tense and rule-bound as they might be in large metro area. I'm always out taking walks, biking, or driving for "non-essential purposes" such as enjoying the day. Weather has been nice (it would suck if the weather prevented going outside).

I've noticed that, when this began, chats with neighbors were very distant and often involved nearly shouting back and forth. Now it's more relaxed. I just had a chat with neighbors while standing a foot or two apart, petting each others' dogs, with no one worried about six feet or no-touch rules.

Anyhow, I'm doing ok. The main challenge is filling the time without lapsing into one of my favorite time-wasters (e.g., Youtube, social media).

I too am a dog lover, long time dog performance competitor and AKC show judge. Most of my friends are also connected to the dog world, and one of the trends I’m seeing is them talking about things about their dogs personalities that they now are noticing since they are home almost 24/7.
Have you discovered anything about your k9 in this period?

 

[ER Eddie]

I too am a dog lover, long time dog performance competitor and AKC show judge. Most of my friends are also connected to the dog world, and one of the trends I’m seeing is them talking about things about their dogs personalities that they now are noticing since they are home almost 24/7.
Have you discovered anything about your k9 in this period?

Yes, I think I'm coming to understand his personality better. He's quiet but friendly, a little shy, a bit prone to anxious/startle response, and both companionable and independent. A little like me, actually. Some of the things I had earlier interpreted as being calm or being spoiled, I now see in a different light. Our communication is improving, too. We seem to understand each other better.

That's cool that you're so involved with dogs and the AKC. Dog people are great people, in my experience. We have a few kooks and eccentrics among us (maybe I'm one), but we're a good breed.

 

[Pellice]

Another introvert doing ok as to my solo status. But, as a birder, I am finding it very hard to forego spring migration at my usual birding spots. Most - not all - are closed. And, the ones that are open are not necessarily the ones that are best to visit at this time of year. And, I'm trying to keep my travels within about 25 miles from home, as I do not want to add to the problem. So, I'm getting out far less often, and that is very hard in the spring.

3 similarly situated girlfriends and I exchange emails several times a day. This has seemed to suit us very well - no one of us has suggested phoning or video chatting. We text occasionally, but it's mostly emails, which will leave us a record of this extraordinary time and allows us to share reflections or political thoughts, photos of our cats or cooking or good bird sightings if we are out (solo) somewhere. Yes, you could share photos and emojis and links by texting, but nothing of any depth.

Like Calico, I'm trying to be respectful of others with greater challenges.

But, one of my extroverted younger relatives issued this challenge: that she thinks it's sad that some people have experienced little change in their daily lives, that it means their lives have been too circumscribed. I didn't really have an answer for this, except my introvert's conviction that life's richness is not tied to external activities.

 

[Poopycat]

I am a solo introvert. In normal circumstances, I’d be loving the lockdown. I’d work from home, with the cat fighting to sit on my lap every moment, then I’d move to the sofa with the kitty and watch TV/read/play with the iPad til bedtime. I’d miss tennis but otherwise be fine.

But I lost my cat in March and my job in April so I’m feeling nervous about the future. I have calmed down, nothing much I can do, but I do think about how much my cat would have loved having me home all day. She was my “soul kitty” and I cannot think about another pet right now.

Otherwise, I’m doing all right. To my surprise, I did get lonely at first, probably missed having some interaction with tennis acquaintances and coworkers. I find that I’ve become (slightly) more sociable as I’ve gotten older. But now I think I’ve adjusted to the new normal. I’ve cleaned out the house, I’m researching places I want to potentially live, I’m catching up on all the programs I recorded on the DVR that I never got around to, and I’m walking several miles per day, 5-6 days/week. My state is opening gyms and tennis clubs on 5/1. I’m a little leery of going back to the gym so quickly so I will wait on that. Now that I don’t have a job, and am thinking of moving anyway, I will probably forgo the summer tennis club as well. Maybe. Have to think about that one because I love tennis.

 

[irishgal]

Yes, I think I'm coming to understand his personality better. He's quiet but friendly, a little shy, a bit prone to anxious/startle response, and both companionable and independent. A little like me, actually. Some of the things I had earlier interpreted as being calm or being spoiled, I now see in a different light. Our communication is improving, too. We seem to understand each other better.

That's cool that you're so involved with dogs and the AKC. Dog people are great people, in my experience. We have a few kooks and eccentrics among us (maybe I'm one), but we're a good breed.

Oh we are kooks for sure. Who drives 10 hours to stand outside all day in all kinds of horrible weather? Not normal people lol!!!

 

[irishgal]

Another introvert doing ok as to my solo status. But, as a birder, I am finding it very hard to forego spring migration at my usual birding spots. Most - not all - are closed. And, the ones that are open are not necessarily the ones that are best to visit at this time of year. And, I'm trying to keep my travels within about 25 miles from home, as I do not want to add to the problem. So, I'm getting out far less often, and that is very hard in the spring.

3 similarly situated girlfriends and I exchange emails several times a day. This has seemed to suit us very well - no one of us has suggested phoning or video chatting. We text occasionally, but it's mostly emails, which will leave us a record of this extraordinary time and allows us to share reflections or political thoughts, photos of our cats or cooking or good bird sightings if we are out (solo) somewhere. Yes, you could share photos and emojis and links by texting, but nothing of any depth.




Like Calico, I'm trying to be respectful of others with greater challenges.

But, one of my extroverted younger relatives issued this challenge: that she thinks it's sad that some people have experienced little change in their daily lives, that it means their lives have been too circumscribed. I didn't really have an answer for this, except my introvert's conviction that life's richness is not tied to external activities.

Hmm, sad that we have little change. Well, for me, being out with my dogs watching them doing what they were bred to do and clearly find great joy doing is to me heaven. Maybe like birding, when you are out and its quiet and you finally see that one bird you hoped to see. I have a friend who is a doctor and he and his birding group travel all over the world to see specific birds. To some, this probably sounds odd. To me, it sounds like a wonderful way to spend time.

 

[irishgal]

I am a solo introvert. In normal circumstances, I’d be loving the lockdown. I’d work from home, with the cat fighting to sit on my lap every moment, then I’d move to the sofa with the kitty and watch TV/read/play with the iPad til bedtime. I’d miss tennis but otherwise be fine.

But I lost my cat in March and my job in April so I’m feeling nervous about the future. I have calmed down, nothing much I can do, but I do think about how much my cat would have loved having me home all day. She was my “soul kitty” and I cannot think about another pet right now.

Otherwise, I’m doing all right. To my surprise, I did get lonely at first, probably missed having some interaction with tennis acquaintances and coworkers. I find that I’ve become (slightly) more sociable as I’ve gotten older. But now I think I’ve adjusted to the new normal. I’ve cleaned out the house, I’m researching places I want to potentially live, I’m catching up on all the programs I recorded on the DVR that I never got around to, and I’m walking several miles per day, 5-6 days/week. My state is opening gyms and tennis clubs on 5/1. I’m a little leery of going back to the gym so quickly so I will wait on that. Now that I don’t have a job, and am thinking of moving anyway, I will probably forgo the summer tennis club as well. Maybe. Have to think about that one because I love tennis.

I am so so sorry about your cat, and your job, that is actually quite a lot of loss in a short period of time.
Please be kind to yourself at this time, sometimes the impact of loss can sneak up and really be painful over time.

 

[easysurfer]

Solo quarantine hasn't really been that different. Pre-virus there never seemed to be enough time in the day anyhow for the regular tasks like housework and chores. Durig virus that really hasn't changed.

I am happy though for a good internet connection to "socialize" with others and that I have a working treadmill and some dumbbells to not turn into total mush.

Being an introvert, I actually enjoy not having to chit chat with others for the sake of chit chat.

 

[Retire2013]

Quarantined solo here. No problem at all. I have a very cute and active dog so we play ball in the house and in our yard. Ordered groceries using Instacart and also Amazon Prime. Have not been bored or frustrated at all. When not playing with my dog, I practice yoga. Play the piano. Compose music. Garden. Cook. Bake. And read. The reason for the quarantine is unfortunate but my personal experience has been, thankfully, very pleasant so far.

 

[ls99]

Splendid!