SecondCor521
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Hi all.
I got engaged at age 20 and, as was traditional, gave her a diamond engagement ring. On our wedding day, again as traditional, we added a wedding band, which was combined/soldered/whatever. 16 years and three kids later, she left the marriage. I asked her to consider the ring as marital property. I asked her to give it to our daughter. She and her lawyer declined both these requests.
My Mom died in 2016. In the process of dividing her jewelry as she was on hospice, she steered a rather lovely diamond and emerald ring to me. We all know it was her hope that I would remarry and use that ring as an engagement ring. I will very very likely not remarry.
My son is 20 and has a serious girlfriend. They're both university students.
She is lovely and they're a good match. Engagement / marriage has been discussed for sometime in the moderate future.
On the one hand, I would be delighted to offer this ring to my son -
Of course only if he wants it and likes it and likes the idea of an heirloom ring, and only if she would want it and like it and like the idea of an heirloom ring
- as an engagement ring.
On the other hand, not all marriages work out and not all rings are returned. But I would feel rather churlish to say, "Hey, you (son/GF) can have this, but if it doesn't work out, the family (I and my sisters) want(s) it back"
I don't know how common it is for wedding rings to be handed back in the case of divorce. I would think that it being a family heirloom might increase those odds, but obviously not to 100%.
This currently looks like the best chance to hand this ring on in a meaningful way. None of the other kids or even cousins are in a place to use it. Of course that could change too.
Thoughts / comments appreciated.
I got engaged at age 20 and, as was traditional, gave her a diamond engagement ring. On our wedding day, again as traditional, we added a wedding band, which was combined/soldered/whatever. 16 years and three kids later, she left the marriage. I asked her to consider the ring as marital property. I asked her to give it to our daughter. She and her lawyer declined both these requests.
My Mom died in 2016. In the process of dividing her jewelry as she was on hospice, she steered a rather lovely diamond and emerald ring to me. We all know it was her hope that I would remarry and use that ring as an engagement ring. I will very very likely not remarry.
My son is 20 and has a serious girlfriend. They're both university students.
She is lovely and they're a good match. Engagement / marriage has been discussed for sometime in the moderate future.
On the one hand, I would be delighted to offer this ring to my son -
Of course only if he wants it and likes it and likes the idea of an heirloom ring, and only if she would want it and like it and like the idea of an heirloom ring
- as an engagement ring.
On the other hand, not all marriages work out and not all rings are returned. But I would feel rather churlish to say, "Hey, you (son/GF) can have this, but if it doesn't work out, the family (I and my sisters) want(s) it back"
I don't know how common it is for wedding rings to be handed back in the case of divorce. I would think that it being a family heirloom might increase those odds, but obviously not to 100%.
This currently looks like the best chance to hand this ring on in a meaningful way. None of the other kids or even cousins are in a place to use it. Of course that could change too.
Thoughts / comments appreciated.
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