Katsmeow
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I would like some feedback on the nuts and bolts of using a power of attorney for a parent. I understand the legal part of it (I'm an attorney) but haven't had personal experience using one in this situation.
My mother is 94 and in poor health. She has been living on her own and managing things on her own. She is forgetful but has been competent to do that. I've had her durable power of attorney (and her health care POA) for many years but I've never had occasion to use them.
About a month ago she was hospitalized for heart failure and spent a few weeks in the hospital/rehab. She went home and a couple of days later fell (due to low blood sugar) and is not back in rehab (after being in the hospital a few days).
She wants me to handle all of her bill paying and money for her. Until now I've lived a few hours away from her. But we recently moved near to where she is (we are living in a short term apartment until we find a house).
So far she can still sign checks but I think she would prefer I just do everything. So questions on how using a POA actually goes:
1. She has a contract with Terminix that I can't get a clear answer on what it is. I don't mind paying it off (well, having her pay it off) but I don't want to renew it. I need to call Terminix and talk to them. For those using a POA for a parent, in those kinds of situation will they typically talk to me on the phone or make me send in a copy of the POA first?
2. She has her money at Chase Bank (which is also where I bank). She said that she talked to them years ago and they said there would be no problem honoring the POA but she didn't give them a copy. I know some banks want the person to sign their form. She is mentally competent to do that, but right now is not mobile enough to do it (that is, she could not go into the bank). I am not sure if she will ever be able to go into the bank. Of course, the bank should honor her Durable POA but I know sometimes they don't. Obviously the thing I most need to be able to do is write check as Attorney in Fact for her. (No, I don't want to simply be joint on her accounts. I think it is cleaner to not do that). Any experiences with Chase or other bank?
3. There are a few things where I would like to get forms from her IRA (small value annuity) or from a couple of small pensions she gets (she gets a monthly check and I would rather it was direct deposited).
Any other words of wisdom on how to get people to honor the POA? Or other advice?
At this point, my mom's doctor does not think she will rebound back to where she was a few month's ago. She feels my mom is in gradual decline. My sense is that she doesn't expect her to live more than 6 months to a year and things could easily go south at any minute. My mom is definitely getting weaker and just doesn't want to deal with any of this at all.
My mother is 94 and in poor health. She has been living on her own and managing things on her own. She is forgetful but has been competent to do that. I've had her durable power of attorney (and her health care POA) for many years but I've never had occasion to use them.
About a month ago she was hospitalized for heart failure and spent a few weeks in the hospital/rehab. She went home and a couple of days later fell (due to low blood sugar) and is not back in rehab (after being in the hospital a few days).
She wants me to handle all of her bill paying and money for her. Until now I've lived a few hours away from her. But we recently moved near to where she is (we are living in a short term apartment until we find a house).
So far she can still sign checks but I think she would prefer I just do everything. So questions on how using a POA actually goes:
1. She has a contract with Terminix that I can't get a clear answer on what it is. I don't mind paying it off (well, having her pay it off) but I don't want to renew it. I need to call Terminix and talk to them. For those using a POA for a parent, in those kinds of situation will they typically talk to me on the phone or make me send in a copy of the POA first?
2. She has her money at Chase Bank (which is also where I bank). She said that she talked to them years ago and they said there would be no problem honoring the POA but she didn't give them a copy. I know some banks want the person to sign their form. She is mentally competent to do that, but right now is not mobile enough to do it (that is, she could not go into the bank). I am not sure if she will ever be able to go into the bank. Of course, the bank should honor her Durable POA but I know sometimes they don't. Obviously the thing I most need to be able to do is write check as Attorney in Fact for her. (No, I don't want to simply be joint on her accounts. I think it is cleaner to not do that). Any experiences with Chase or other bank?
3. There are a few things where I would like to get forms from her IRA (small value annuity) or from a couple of small pensions she gets (she gets a monthly check and I would rather it was direct deposited).
Any other words of wisdom on how to get people to honor the POA? Or other advice?
At this point, my mom's doctor does not think she will rebound back to where she was a few month's ago. She feels my mom is in gradual decline. My sense is that she doesn't expect her to live more than 6 months to a year and things could easily go south at any minute. My mom is definitely getting weaker and just doesn't want to deal with any of this at all.