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The cost of having the wills done properly far outweighed any potential saving in a DIY job. The savings can easily be eaten up just by an executor or one of our children having to seek some legal advice or direction post our demise. We keep a separate asset and password sheet in our safe deposit box that is updated every year. Our children have access to the the box.
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Some banks will deny access to the safety deposit boxes, once notified a person is dead, until the executor shows up with death certificate and will (and maybe probated will).
I went to the bank to open the box when Mom died, got everything out, and weeks later went in to close the bank accounts with the paperwork, and hand in the box keys.