Retire at Holiday Inn instead of retirement home?
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I think rather than a hotel, I would live in an RV park, where many senior activities already exist, and all the comforts of home. Many have daily van trips to shopping or groceries, and some have daily well checks included.
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In some states (CA) the hotels will discourage visits over 30 days as you then become a resident and have rights like an apartment dweller and it makes it tougher for the hotel to oust unsavory patrons who bring in their cats, put potted plants outside their room and cook weird smelling things in their rooms.
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I would not mind spending a couple of years on a cruise ship with all the amenities as long as I was physically and mentally stable. However, I would have concern at an advanced age regarding diseases in confined spaces like a ship.
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In states I have visited I too stay sometimes at extended stay suite hotels. I have met seniors and IT specialists from India doing contracting work here in the USA. Some of them have been staying in these accommodations for a number of years.
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When we were full timing in our motorhome we stayed a couple times at a local hotel in our hometown. We would park the motorhome and fly back home for 2 weeks to a month. This hotel had converted 2 rooms to an apartment with full kitchen and living area. Very comfortable and cost was $900/month which included a typical breakfast.
But this was in 2013.
But this was in 2013.
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There's a place in Bowie, Maryland, on the Route 3 median, called the White House Motel. It also gets called other things...
I don't know how it is now, but they used to rent rooms by the month. When I used to deliver pizzas as a second job, some of the workers there would get 3-4 people, and rent one of those rooms. It was around $750/month, back in the late 1990's. Sure, it would be crowded, and it's a miracle the place hasn't been condemned, but I guess it beats being out on the street.
City and local governments have been trying to get it closed down for years, but somehow, it seems to survive.
I don't know how it is now, but they used to rent rooms by the month. When I used to deliver pizzas as a second job, some of the workers there would get 3-4 people, and rent one of those rooms. It was around $750/month, back in the late 1990's. Sure, it would be crowded, and it's a miracle the place hasn't been condemned, but I guess it beats being out on the street.
City and local governments have been trying to get it closed down for years, but somehow, it seems to survive.
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Sounds lonely to me. Call me selfish, but I hope my daughter would give me a room in her home until I need 24 hour care.
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I cared for my dad in our home for almost 2 years before we moved him out. It was great for him, not so great for us. I can just about guarantee your idea of when you'll need 24 hour care and your daughter's are going to be worlds apart. I had to fight my dad on giving up driving, (lied and told him the Dr. called the DMV, not a family member. To this day, every doc he sees, he accuses of taking his license.) I had to fight Dad on bathing. He was convinced since he didn't really work, he didn't sweat and therefore didn't stink. I didn't trust Dad to heat up a cup of coffee in the microwave after he entered 10 minutes instead of 1 minute and filled the house with smoke from the boiled out coffee. Having an elderly parent live with you is like having a child in your car with the seat belt off; it's a disaster waiting to happen. You may never need the seat belt, but if you ever did, you'll feel terrible. Same with an adult parent who can't live on their own but doesn't need 24 hour care... YET. One slip or fall while you are out for the day, one absent minded mistake on the elder's part, a million other things that can go wrong.
In my opinion, asking to stay with a child is selfish and if they are smart, they'll tell you up front that they are willing to support you in any way possible, but that they need to live their lives, just like you lived yours; in privacy and full freedom without fear of your or their health and well being.
When my father was finally moved out, literally danced a jig at getting our freedom back. Don't do that to your daughter unless you really don't like her that much.
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Sorry you had such a bad experience taking care of your father, that wasn't our experience at all. Some families consider it an honor to have the older generation live with them.
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Did you ask about long term stays, a single night rate will be higher.
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So true, and very noble of those who care for their parents. Different cultures have different attitudes toward the multi-generational home, as well.
Personally (and consistent with my family's culture and attitudes towards this) I would never intentionally impose on my daughter like that. She has a busy life and enough to deal with already, without having to take care of me in my old age. To me, the best gift I can give her is not an inheritance, but allowing her to live her own life and visit me when it is convenient to her.
Exactly. Hotels and cruise ships are comparable to independent living senior communities. Not remotely comparable to assisted living, nursing homes, or memory care.
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I left a rant I have now deleted. I assume your post was a slap to my face with the remark about honor because you quoted me. Perhaps you'll clarify that, perhaps not. My face is numb from the slaps received dealing with the reality caring for my father. I once had a noble notion of caring for my father before he moved in as well. His loss of dignity has humbled me to tears. In any case, I hope you are thankful to the Almighty for your own positive experience.
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I had looked into something similar, was looking for "home bases" to travel from state to state as I'm not much of an RV person but thought I'd find a hotel centrally located to what I wanted to see and spend a month or so in each location. It wasn't anywhere near the rates he quoted and there are places where when you enter those types of requests it goes thru a special booking process and other perks are elimanted... like usually soap/toothpaste etc are only included day one, after that you are on your own, they will swap out bedding once a week but your on your own day to day to make your bed, etc.
My BFs parents lived at the Hilton in Wakiki for over a year when they were first establishing his business there.
My BFs parents lived at the Hilton in Wakiki for over a year when they were first establishing his business there.
"Robison wrote on Facebook that the average cost of nursing home care is about $188 per day. A long-term stay with a senior discount at Holiday Inn, on the other hand, is $59.23 per day."
Seems silly to be comparing the cost of a nursing home to a Holiday Inn doesn't it? Rather an apples-to-oranges comparison.
That's like saying a private chef is more expensive than Burger King.
Seems silly to be comparing the cost of a nursing home to a Holiday Inn doesn't it? Rather an apples-to-oranges comparison.
That's like saying a private chef is more expensive than Burger King.
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Yesterday, I read on the Web the story of a couple who got kicked off their cruise ship. The woman developed some internal bleeding in her digestive tract, and went to the ship doctor. The doctor said it was more serious than he could handle. So, Royal Caribbean kicked them off at a port in Mexico, just 2 days before the ship was due back in Miami.
They had to find their own way back home. See below.
For more: https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/sic...xico-didnt-want-responsibility-004430348.html.
Or this: https://www.northjersey.com/story/n...forced-off-royal-caribbean-cruise/2669094002/
Moral of story: When you are old but well, you can do what you want. Cruise ship, Holiday Inn, RV on Walmart lots, whatever. When you get sick, nobody wants you. Which hotel or cruise ship wants a sick dying patient on their premise?
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Wow...I thought it was just me. Funny this story showed up today.
Also, correctly stated, it is much cheaper than a Retirement Home . It is in NO way meant to be a substitute for a Nursing Home, and I don't think that was/is the individuals intent here.
Seriously, I have been contemplating something exactly like this for quite awhile.
As I type this, I am in actual negotiations with a major national hotel chain to allow me to move between chain hotels at a fixed, pre-paid, price for a one year period. That, combined with a one year Amtrak pass and it seems to me a Fella' could have his-self some fun.
Will report here as it does, or does not , proceed.
Also, correctly stated, it is much cheaper than a Retirement Home . It is in NO way meant to be a substitute for a Nursing Home, and I don't think that was/is the individuals intent here.
Seriously, I have been contemplating something exactly like this for quite awhile.
As I type this, I am in actual negotiations with a major national hotel chain to allow me to move between chain hotels at a fixed, pre-paid, price for a one year period. That, combined with a one year Amtrak pass and it seems to me a Fella' could have his-self some fun.
Will report here as it does, or does not , proceed.
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Some people live in cheap hotels b/c they can't afford to live elsewhere. Holiday Inn is an upgrade of sort but not much different than what those people are doing. Swimming pool, fitness center, etc.. sound all good but at the end, it's a sad life. I think living abroad may make more sense, financially and socially.
Living in a cruise ship may be something I can do probably for a short period (months, not years).
Living in a cruise ship may be something I can do probably for a short period (months, not years).
Thanks for the article. One should rent the movie " The Florida project" starring Willem Dafoe. Movie filmed on location in Kissimmee FL, a stone's throw from Walt Disney World. Showcases the real dark secret on what is right next to WDW, of long term guests in motels off of busy Highway 192. Real eye opener.
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