davismills
Recycles dryer sheets
- Joined
- Dec 6, 2012
- Messages
- 335
I wish you well and am sad to see your goodbye note. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. You have helped more than you will ever know!
I do not think it was a "good bye" note. That is just his unique way of talking. I believe he is still posting from time to time on other forums, and, I believe he will return to this one as time allows.
F
My experience here in our CCRC has now seen a dozen or more cases, where
the "healthy' couple sold their home, and were forced to pay for long term care... selling down the $$$ assets from the house sale, and leaving the healthy partner with no place to live, and minimal Social Security payments, hardly enough to survive on.
I don't quite understand. I thought you owned your CCRC property, so what happened with these couples, and why did they sell their house if they were healthy? Or, were these people renting a unit in the CCRC, can no longer pay rent now that one of them is in LTC, and that's why there is no place left to live?
First... thank you all for the kind words.
...............................................................................
For those were wondering if I might have passed away, not so, just slower and dealing with more memory problems, but still reasonably able to get around, and spending more and more time volunteering in the community running several weekly activities... (we're taking a try at Bocce Ball next week)... wondering if my friends will be able to play using their walkers an wheel chairs... going to give it a try...
regards,
bob
Glad your doing well ImOlder... The example of Dementia is a sad reminder that it is the spouse / Family that is really suffering. I want to move to Belgium, I do not want to be a burden to my DW and Daughter. But i understand that i need to have enough wits about me to understand that my Brain is not going to get any better, give me some juice and cut me loose. Or living with Stage 4 cancer for a year, why bother.
In the Netherlands and Belgium, euthanasia is understood as "termination of life by a doctor at the request of a patient".
But i understand that i need to have enough wits about me to understand that my Brain is not going to get any better, give me some juice and cut me loose. Or living with Stage 4 cancer for a year, why bother.
In the Netherlands and Belgium, euthanasia is understood as "termination of life by a doctor at the request of a patient".
Re: owning.. this can get confusing... In our CCRC, we DO own the villas (individual homes)... In the rest of the community... the apartments, assisted living, nursing home and Alzheimer units, payment is by monthly fee... (by the way, no "buy in").
So... here's what happened... Joe and Molly had lived in one of the villas. When Molly 's dementia reached a point where she could no longer live safely with Joe, she went to the Alzheimer unit. Joe sold the villa, and moved into the "Estates", where he rented, but had no ownership. The sale assets then became moneys that were part of Joe and Molly's estate , and were therefore fair game to be used to pay for Molly's care.
Had Joe kept the Villa, while the $$$ net worth assets would have been used to pay Molly's expenses, He would still have been allowed to keep the Villa until he died, at which time the state would have a lien on the value of the villa to pay off monies that would have gone to repay medicaid.
Though I am not sure of this, my "warning" is a follow up on what the admissions department of our CCRC, is advising... Separate trusts for Molly and Joe... before being forced by law to accept the negative aspects of joint ownership. Again, keeping in mind that this "separation" would have to be made 5 years previous to Molly's move to the Alzheimer unit.
If anyone has more up to date legal information on this general issue, it would be most appreciated.
Yeah... complicated and seemingly way off in the future, but after seeing some sad results of not understanding or looking ahead, I feel it deserves consideration.
Logging in here for our celebration.
Quiet one for us... Our 60th wedding anniversary. July 12 1958. We had a very nice 50th anniversary, with the entire family ten years ago.. Now... much happier to spend it alone with my bride... at home, just remembering the past 75 years since we met... in Grammar School at age 7. How about that. Good friends until our senior year in High School, when I asked her to the prom after breaking up with her next door neighbor.
Four years of college, she at Boston University, me at Bowdoin... She taking train to Maine, me hitchhiking to Boston, every chance we could get. Since then, four sons, and now, we are in our 30th year of retirement.
We could not be happier, or more in love. Pics of prom and marriage.
Congratulations and may many happy anniversaries follow!Congratulations. That is awesome! And i thought 35 years was long,lol.