It weird how complicated this stuff gets. From what you wrote you weren't upset that the other GPs saw the kids and you didn't, you were bothered by all the mingling and breaking the stay at home order.
It's like they want to see if you are principled or can be lumped in with the other grandparents as complicit. I'm sure its not that simple but still. And of course the fact the other GPs "came anyway" really has nothing to do with your DD's family not holding the line on staying isolated.
I had a similar thought to the one you voiced about being lumped in as complicit. Not certain it was intentional but it certainly would be the result...right?
I'm sure a lot of extended families everywhere are having the same type of discussions...
ivinsfan...you are correct. It was not about the other grandparents seeing the granchildren and me not seeing them.
It had everything to do with COVID-19 restrictions, traveling across states, breaking Stay at Home orders..etc.,
And perhaps for myself, I have felt real fear thru out this. Fear for my grandchildren and my daughter and son-in-law (as we all have) Everyone else in my biological family has done the same as me with the restrictions. So it was like right out of left field for me that the other grandparents were so cavalier about it.
Maybe I was a bit ahead of the curve in having posted my initial question but only perhaps because I have the other in-laws that apparently never believed the seriousness of COVID19 or supported our government and state efforts. However, they do understand the level of "judgement" that is out there and the FB post of the travel pictures have captions that make it sounds they were "sent" the pictures.
I don't know if their offer was intentionally to make me complicit but that certainly would be the result. Rather I believe perhaps it's to take a bit of the heat off the other grandparents or paint us all with the same brush?? Not sure.
You are right though, I agree that others with extended family may be having similar discussions in the future.
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