CuppaJoe
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Run, Dawg, Run!
My work schedule for my first 15 years was 7 days of afternoon shift, 2 days off, 3 days on day shift, and 2 days off. Another guy worked the same schedule, but just opposite of mine....he on days, me on afternoons....me on days, he on afternoons. So I was all alone on afternoon shifts, and only had interaction with other employees for 3 day shifts, every 2 weeks. I absolutely LOVED it!I also enjoy solitude and time spent alone. My job is rather unusual in that I work alone much of the time.
Thanks, Lazy! That's exactly the quote I was thinking of!"loneliness is a word to express the pain of being alone...solitude is a word to express the glory of being alone."~~paul tillich, an existentialist theologian, and a bit of a loner lolol.
My work schedule for my first 15 years was 7 days of afternoon shift, 2 days off, 3 days on day shift, and 2 days off. Another guy worked the same schedule, but just opposite of mine....he on days, me on afternoons....me on days, he on afternoons. So I was all alone on afternoon shifts, and only had interaction with other employees for 3 day shifts, every 2 weeks. I absolutely LOVED it!
Thanks, Lazy! That's exactly the quote I was thinking of!
I hypothesize that the pain of loneliness is one of the major motivators to be social.
Dawg 52, You can still find a mate . Lots of women would love a level headed golf playing guy who belongs to a country club has a cute dog and cares for his mother & aunt . What more would a women want ?
But then after 15 years, they stuck me on straight days, 5 days per week, Monday through Friday, plus every 6th weekend. Then I had to be around all [-] those whiners and complainers[/-] the other employees every day....all day....Yuck! Besides, I wasn't a 'morning person'....my idea of getting up early was around 8am.....I had to start getting up at 5:30am...Yuck! Thank goodness that I've been able to overcome that evil habit, and get back onto the path of righteousness......now once again, I'm able to consider 8am to be getting up early!With that kind of schedule I might have stuck it out 'til 30 years.
Hey, I've heard that hot chicks love dawgs...I'm sure that is true for many. I wanted to get married when I was younger, but it just never worked out. Guess I had one of those faces only a mother could love.
Well when we are dead we are really going to be sorry! Bill, sounds like you are a well adjusted guy like me .... I read all the stuff about having close friends can extend your life and wonder what I am missing.
Lazy, thanks for sharing all of those experiences with us. Sounds like you are still hurting. I think for guys there are fewer chances to become real close friends so we have fewer good/bad experiences to relate. I've noticed that guys my own age tend to shy away from making new friends -- or maybe they just think I'm too weird or uninteresting or whatever.... so go make friends. the worst that can happen is they'll rip your heart out.
I FIREed four years ago or I guess semi-FIREed four years ago. I am 55, have a great DW, married over 30 years and have two grown kids. I enjoy being with people, talking to people and most all social settings. But, I also enjoy just being by myself. My DW is still working and is gone by the time I get up. I can spend the whole day, just hanging around the house, by myself and I have a great time. I sometimes think to myself that I am as happy as a pig in (the stuff pigs like to be happy in). I have friends, but none that I would call close friends. I read all the stuff about having close friends can extend your life and wonder what I am missing. I drove across the country, by myself and I really had a good time. I go to a local coffee shop, twice a week, by myself and read the paper. I have a great time. Am I crazy or just different or maybe a little of both. I think I have a very good self-worth attitude about myself, if that is what you call it. Are there any other folks out there that just enjoy life on their one lane road?
PS: When the DW if not working we spend time together, do things together and enjoy being together. So there is not a problem there, as far as I know.
I expect there are a lot of introverts on this board.
Yep, I'm starting to think that there may be some strong correlation between ERs (and those striving to do so) and some large degree of introversion (loners). Maybe it's more a correlation with those who LBTM and other related values that lead to ER. Interesting.
Yep, I'm starting to think that there may be some strong correlation between ERs (and those striving to do so) and some large degree of introversion (loners). Maybe it's more a correlation with those who LBTM and other related values that lead to ER. Interesting.
A true extrovert would have a lot of trouble dealing with the social deprivation necessary just to save all that money. There are 6 or 7 bars in 2 blocks one block down from me. They are hopping with young people till late every night. All that costs a fair amount of money.There was a "study" on this topic that appeared on the Intercst early retirement site. It basically concluded that introverts were the most common early retirement personality type. See URL
Is There a Retire Early Personality Type?
Either that or they were the most likely to respond to an anonymous poll on an Internet ER discussion board from the privacy & comfort of their computers.There was a "study" on this topic that appeared on the Intercst early retirement site. It basically concluded that introverts were the most common early retirement personality type. See URL
Is There a Retire Early Personality Type?
Lazy, thanks for sharing all of those experiences with us. Sounds like you are still hurting.
I think for guys there are fewer chances to become real close friends so we have fewer good/bad experiences to relate. I've noticed that guys my own age tend to shy away from making new friends -- or maybe they just think I'm too weird or uninteresting or whatever.
Other then my wife, I don't think I've had a "best" friend, just friends that are nice to talk once in awhile. I enjoy the occasional conversation with strangers like when I take a stretch break at the small lake I run to. Sometimes a 5 minute conversation is all I need other then interactions with DW and DD (12 year old blind Corgi).
Introvert? what's that mean? is that kinda like shy?Yep, I'm starting to think that there may be some strong correlation between ERs (and those striving to do so) and some large degree of introversion (loners).
There was a "study" on this topic that appeared on the Intercst early retirement site. It basically concluded that introverts were the most common early retirement personality type. See URL
Is There a Retire Early Personality Type?
Introvert? what's that mean? is that kinda like shy?
EXTROVERT all the way here. wooohoooooooooooooo
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) seminar years ago determined i was type ESTJ.
anybody else ever do this seminar?
Introvert? what's that mean? is that kinda like shy?
EXTROVERT all the way here. wooohoooooooooooooo
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) seminar years ago determined i was type ESTJ.
anybody else ever do this seminar?