I'm going to get both ends of it.
My dad has a well funded retirement, is creeping up on 74, and will be virtually impossible to "help" or do anything for him until he decides its what he wants. He actively avoids telling me about things he needs to do or decisions he's going to make to avoid any possibility of my giving him any input or helping him. I predict a very interesting 10 years or so before I'll be providing at least some level of care thats going to be largely begrudged. Hey Nords, I'm looking forward to entering your world!
I guess the good/bad news is that there is virtually no chance he'll move back to where we all come from.
On the other end, we have my wifes parents. My MIL spends like a drunken sailor on stuff that she doesnt need. House is 3-4 feet deep at all the walls with statues, dolls, odds and ends and paraphernalia of all descriptions. Where room at the walls has been exhausted, small islands are created and built up to eye level. Very large brand new motor home to replace the one that had nothing wrong with it. Financially subsidizes my BIL and SIL extensively. Although she works in medical, refuses to get a physical or see a doctor unless she's seriously injured, then ignores what they tell her to do. Both in-laws are overweight, eat poorly, exercise little, and drink enough to be of concern. The very minute she's unable or unwilling to work, the whole house of cards crumbles financially. Other than a small pension, a small 403b, and social security...no other savings or investments. My BIL and SIL, in their 40's, dont even have health care coverage for themselves or their families.
MIL is also the type to not admit any shortcomings or accept any help, if that can at all be avoided.
Tick...tick...tick....tick...
Wish I could say I know what i'm going to do. On one end i'm going to deal with a financially sound person that will only accept help if I use a baseball bat, at the other end, a financial collapse of an entire family...both probably in 10 years or less.
Hmmm...where are those Fallbrook real estate listings again?