FIRE-Traveler
Dryer sheet wannabe
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- Dec 15, 2021
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I'm still reading through this great thread (since I just got the book) and wanted to reply to some stuff that resonated with me (and thank the posters).
I need to have more of this perspective and do more of this process! I've always been "SAVE SAVE SAVE!!!" to have a ton of money in retirement. I'm at the point now where I probably can't spend what I have, unless I SIGNIFICANTLY learn to increase my spending. I need to remind myself that I can always "cool off" and reduce trips, spending, and (worst case) move into a much smaller house if things ever go completely south/bad.Don't have any plans, just do it all on the fly. I was a bit concerned that I was way over the "line" but hey, why worry eh? If things cool off so will we.
I need to re-read this over and over! I've been WAY too frugal over my life (at the detriment of ex-wife, kids, etc. )My step children will be instant millionaires if the current trend holds and their mother doesn't spend it all after I'm gone.
That's what is happening right now in real life. I was worried about spending too much, but there's nothing to worry about. Why frugal if you don't have to? Frugal if you have to or you want to but if you don't want to...
I definitely want to leave money to my kids, but I'm realizing I'm on the path to leaving a LOT more than I "should", and it sucks knowing I'm going to leave them money to enjoy AFTER I'm dead... at the expense of being overly frugaland not optomizing experiences with them while I'm alive.Unfortunately at the rate we’re going we’re going to leave too much to our nieces & nephews (all between 19 and 41 yo now). So we’re trying to figure out how to spend more on ourselves now while still leaving a nice chunk to heirs.
Ya, that's kinda been me over the years. Hopefully reading the book, reading this thread, etc. will help me make changes before it's "too late".A dear cousin died last year. She was always very frugal but overly so IMO, denying herself things that would've made her life easier (like having her front yard converted into a driveway so she'd have a place to park her car in her urban neighborhood that lacked parking spots). In part this was due to some generalized anxiety on her part and (I suspect) some other psychological issues.