Hello everyone.
I'm 22, have a wonderful girlfriend and no children.
When my girlfriend was 18, she said she wanted to have 4 children, that she would love to be a mom, etc.
When she was 20, she said that 2 was ok.
When she was 22, she said that 1 was everything she wanted.
Now that she is 24, we're already discussing about not having a baby, even more now that she was converted convinced to the LBYM and "time is gold" principles.
I already know about the financial consequences of having a child, and I'm sure that with one I'll be delaying my ER for some years. I do not have a doubt about that.
My worries are about the emotional side of things. I heard about a lot of couples that break up after a child, that their time are completely absorbed by the child, that they lose part of the freedom to travel, etc. However, I'm also constantly hearing by some parents that their children were the best thing that ever happened to them.
I mean, I love babies and etc, but just can't imagine having to be taking care of him all the time, and when he/she gets older to become a freaking teenager and then get it's own life as a young adult. I'm not sure if I want that.
So, this come to an awkward question: are they worth it? I'm really unsecure about this and I don't want to put a kid in the world and regret it for the rest of my life.
I'm already feeling that the answer will depend about me more than anything...
I'm 22, have a wonderful girlfriend and no children.
When my girlfriend was 18, she said she wanted to have 4 children, that she would love to be a mom, etc.
When she was 20, she said that 2 was ok.
When she was 22, she said that 1 was everything she wanted.
Now that she is 24, we're already discussing about not having a baby, even more now that she was converted convinced to the LBYM and "time is gold" principles.
I already know about the financial consequences of having a child, and I'm sure that with one I'll be delaying my ER for some years. I do not have a doubt about that.
My worries are about the emotional side of things. I heard about a lot of couples that break up after a child, that their time are completely absorbed by the child, that they lose part of the freedom to travel, etc. However, I'm also constantly hearing by some parents that their children were the best thing that ever happened to them.
I mean, I love babies and etc, but just can't imagine having to be taking care of him all the time, and when he/she gets older to become a freaking teenager and then get it's own life as a young adult. I'm not sure if I want that.
So, this come to an awkward question: are they worth it? I'm really unsecure about this and I don't want to put a kid in the world and regret it for the rest of my life.
I'm already feeling that the answer will depend about me more than anything...