thefed
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I have a small group of friends as of late...most are just aqquaintences. However, I have one GOOD friend who has been by my side through thick and thin over the last few years (admittedly, he wasnt around too much during the thin, for reasons i wont go into. he was there somewhat emotionally, but not as much as i would've hoped).
I've employed him for one year now in my air duct and home repair businesses. He always states how happy he is that i'm able to keep him busy. He's a general laborer and has averaged over $20/hr. His best paying job before me was 12 or 13/hr....and was unemplyed for the 6 months prior to me hiring him.
Well, the other day he asked me while we worked "So when am I going to get a raise? How about xxx per job? I'm trying to make some serious money this year..." I told him I'd think about it. His proposed raise was 30% more than he's getting now. No way. I already pay for all meals while we work (admittedly, this usually includes some McD's for breakfast and some sort of fast- food or deli food for lunch). He has a habit of being late. Not LATE, but late nonetheless. I have basically adapted my starting times to him not being there on time. We have not shown up to any jobs late...but it's mainly because I have given us a 'cushion'. I'd say he averages 7-15 mins late daily. He knows it aggrevates me.
I havent 'disciplined' him in any way because a) i have no other reliable help b) he is a pretty close friend...so when he says 'hey, sorry i was late, the dog was taking forever to do his business' he thinks that's it.
30% is a LOT. But in $$$'s, it would not cost me too much. I'd still be making approx 3x as much as he is after costs....am I being greedy? he was there on every single job.The issue is that we work a limited # of hours....We only worked 350 hours last year, and i grossed enough for myself to live on comfortably. Hopefully we have many more jobs now that im at it full time, but we only had 100 jobs last year. His 30% raise would've only cost me $1500 this last year. im i being unreasonable?
Then today, I am even a bit more pissed. You see, he and i talked and decided it's ridiculous to try to go out to the bars/clubs tonight and have fun for new year's even then drive home drunk....not happening. so we decided to each buy ourselves and respective women in our lives some steaks, and we'd party at my house tonight. i have a son who is 18 mos. old and would be with me tonight....sleeping by 8. my fiance was excited to play some board games, eat good food, relax, drink, and be merry with her new friend (his girlfriend of 1 year).
Well, he called me a little bit ago saying 'sorry man, im going to have to cancel....i really want to go out tonight to eat. i wanted to go to a bar or something, but instead i think we're just going to go over to xxx's house" xxx is a mutual friend who treats him like crap, and he complains about on a regular basis. mutual friend is a daily drinker/aloholic with rage issues LOL...not someone i want to be around while im drinking!
i was 1/2 asleep when he called so i said' whatever works man, have fun. i'm gonna crash again...talk 2 u later"
it SOUNDED like he was truly sorry for making/breaking plans...but why? It's not like i'm sad my friend wont come play with me LOL. It's more that i feel betrayed for lack of a better word. i went out and paid 30 bucks for some appetizers and side dishes, got some liqour etc. my old lady's bummed she cant play her new board game (yessss! i dont have to play muhahahaha).
and WHY did he cancel? i have no idea...says he wanted to 'go out to dinner' was the most i got out of the conversation.
So as i sit here reconciliating the year's books, looking at his income for the year, devising some goals for next year, i begin to ask myself questions. is he really a true friend? or just around for the money? no, a 'fake' friend wouldnt buy season tickets with me to the cavaliers...(hmm, i think he still owes me a few hundred bucks for those...). a fake friend wouldnt buy me a christmas present for the first time ever ( he got us matching cav's shirts for when we goto the games. us guys in our circle never gave gifts. this year i got him a gift card to a nice restaurant as atoken of my appreciation business-wise). Do i need to train someone else for the position so all of my eggs arent in the same proverbial basket? (i think this woud backfire, as he'd be pretty isnulted that he helped me build up quite a respectable business for a year...and he relies on the income...and it would cause some serious friction).
I dont know what this post's point really is...i just wanted to express my situation to someone mature and with an outside view. as i write this all out, it seems like there's a lot of issues that need addressed....an im now abit depressed. is 4pm too early to start drinking? lol
I've employed him for one year now in my air duct and home repair businesses. He always states how happy he is that i'm able to keep him busy. He's a general laborer and has averaged over $20/hr. His best paying job before me was 12 or 13/hr....and was unemplyed for the 6 months prior to me hiring him.
Well, the other day he asked me while we worked "So when am I going to get a raise? How about xxx per job? I'm trying to make some serious money this year..." I told him I'd think about it. His proposed raise was 30% more than he's getting now. No way. I already pay for all meals while we work (admittedly, this usually includes some McD's for breakfast and some sort of fast- food or deli food for lunch). He has a habit of being late. Not LATE, but late nonetheless. I have basically adapted my starting times to him not being there on time. We have not shown up to any jobs late...but it's mainly because I have given us a 'cushion'. I'd say he averages 7-15 mins late daily. He knows it aggrevates me.
I havent 'disciplined' him in any way because a) i have no other reliable help b) he is a pretty close friend...so when he says 'hey, sorry i was late, the dog was taking forever to do his business' he thinks that's it.
30% is a LOT. But in $$$'s, it would not cost me too much. I'd still be making approx 3x as much as he is after costs....am I being greedy? he was there on every single job.The issue is that we work a limited # of hours....We only worked 350 hours last year, and i grossed enough for myself to live on comfortably. Hopefully we have many more jobs now that im at it full time, but we only had 100 jobs last year. His 30% raise would've only cost me $1500 this last year. im i being unreasonable?
Then today, I am even a bit more pissed. You see, he and i talked and decided it's ridiculous to try to go out to the bars/clubs tonight and have fun for new year's even then drive home drunk....not happening. so we decided to each buy ourselves and respective women in our lives some steaks, and we'd party at my house tonight. i have a son who is 18 mos. old and would be with me tonight....sleeping by 8. my fiance was excited to play some board games, eat good food, relax, drink, and be merry with her new friend (his girlfriend of 1 year).
Well, he called me a little bit ago saying 'sorry man, im going to have to cancel....i really want to go out tonight to eat. i wanted to go to a bar or something, but instead i think we're just going to go over to xxx's house" xxx is a mutual friend who treats him like crap, and he complains about on a regular basis. mutual friend is a daily drinker/aloholic with rage issues LOL...not someone i want to be around while im drinking!
i was 1/2 asleep when he called so i said' whatever works man, have fun. i'm gonna crash again...talk 2 u later"
it SOUNDED like he was truly sorry for making/breaking plans...but why? It's not like i'm sad my friend wont come play with me LOL. It's more that i feel betrayed for lack of a better word. i went out and paid 30 bucks for some appetizers and side dishes, got some liqour etc. my old lady's bummed she cant play her new board game (yessss! i dont have to play muhahahaha).
and WHY did he cancel? i have no idea...says he wanted to 'go out to dinner' was the most i got out of the conversation.
So as i sit here reconciliating the year's books, looking at his income for the year, devising some goals for next year, i begin to ask myself questions. is he really a true friend? or just around for the money? no, a 'fake' friend wouldnt buy season tickets with me to the cavaliers...(hmm, i think he still owes me a few hundred bucks for those...). a fake friend wouldnt buy me a christmas present for the first time ever ( he got us matching cav's shirts for when we goto the games. us guys in our circle never gave gifts. this year i got him a gift card to a nice restaurant as atoken of my appreciation business-wise). Do i need to train someone else for the position so all of my eggs arent in the same proverbial basket? (i think this woud backfire, as he'd be pretty isnulted that he helped me build up quite a respectable business for a year...and he relies on the income...and it would cause some serious friction).
I dont know what this post's point really is...i just wanted to express my situation to someone mature and with an outside view. as i write this all out, it seems like there's a lot of issues that need addressed....an im now abit depressed. is 4pm too early to start drinking? lol