Sheryl
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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OK.... I feared this was going to happen. S.O. is getting right down to the point where he needs to give his notice, and he's started waffling. I really thought he was going to make the big break.
He is in the construction industry, so he really can't quit in the middle of a project. He's within weeks of finishing the current one. If he takes on another, it will be another year. He's worked 6-7 days, 60-70 hours this past year. He thinks he can work less on the next project, I doubt he knows how to do this...
He has two reasons for waffling (besides the subconscious fear of the unknown):
(1) Another very key, senior employee in the company just quit, and S.O. feels like both of them leaving would be a huge blow to the Co. and kick off a flight of rats-from-sinking-ship. I say "so what." He feels "guilty" taking a big "loyalty bonus" being offered then quitting. He feels "guilty" using up 6 weeks of vacation then quitting. This Co. has been very good to him, but still... he doesn't owe them his life. They are getting rich on his sacrifice.
(2) My health. Not sure the logic here, except I foolishly mentioned that individual Health Ins. in ER is going to cost me a lot more now than it would have before. He thinks we should horde up a few more $$. In my opinion, my questionable health is MORE reason for him to ER now - enjoy life now because who knows what the future holds?
We are only about $70-75k short of my ER target number now, (which I have revised upward three times, and feel very comfortable with) (and which doesn't even include inheritances which almost certainly will exisit) and could probably knock that off by end of year if the market doesn't nose dive (and I don't buy a new car).
So should I try to convince him to jump... or let him make his own decision?
He is in the construction industry, so he really can't quit in the middle of a project. He's within weeks of finishing the current one. If he takes on another, it will be another year. He's worked 6-7 days, 60-70 hours this past year. He thinks he can work less on the next project, I doubt he knows how to do this...
He has two reasons for waffling (besides the subconscious fear of the unknown):
(1) Another very key, senior employee in the company just quit, and S.O. feels like both of them leaving would be a huge blow to the Co. and kick off a flight of rats-from-sinking-ship. I say "so what." He feels "guilty" taking a big "loyalty bonus" being offered then quitting. He feels "guilty" using up 6 weeks of vacation then quitting. This Co. has been very good to him, but still... he doesn't owe them his life. They are getting rich on his sacrifice.
(2) My health. Not sure the logic here, except I foolishly mentioned that individual Health Ins. in ER is going to cost me a lot more now than it would have before. He thinks we should horde up a few more $$. In my opinion, my questionable health is MORE reason for him to ER now - enjoy life now because who knows what the future holds?
We are only about $70-75k short of my ER target number now, (which I have revised upward three times, and feel very comfortable with) (and which doesn't even include inheritances which almost certainly will exisit) and could probably knock that off by end of year if the market doesn't nose dive (and I don't buy a new car).
So should I try to convince him to jump... or let him make his own decision?