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He knew he had trouble balancing his checkbook so he kept $25K in his checking account in case he forgot to carry a digit.
I am so screwed.
He knew he had trouble balancing his checkbook so he kept $25K in his checking account in case he forgot to carry a digit.
(snip)Put the daughter on the accounts is a great option. At the same time give her an investment policy statement or plan is even better. I would add a third item: a letter to myself that they can have custody of and hand back to me when I am suffering this terrible condition that affirms to me it is real and I need to step aside and let them take over the finances.
Wow.. what a great thought...
"What do I do when I get stupid"
Am there! ret. '89. age 76.
The forum is my last stop before going on the AZ support websites. no kiddin'. A place to go to share the day to day loss of what was a pretty fair functional intellect.
The good things-
- Emphasis on rote. Conscious stabilization of decision type functions. For better or worse, finished all the legal things... Will, Living will, power if attorney, trust items, and changing to low risk investments.
- Teamwork with my bride for everything from social calendar, to driving.
- Prepare my kids and my friends for the change. Hate the whispering about "losing it". Friends understand.
-Work hard to keep what is still there... news, current events, biking, canoeing, and maintaining my camp in the woods.
- A concentrated effort over the past three years, to avoid entangling alliances... (contacts with old, distant friends)
-Courage to accept what I cannot change..
The bad things-
-Too many "things"... Camp on lake, Florida senior community, Illinois senior community ... three older cars,
-Still too much paper... address changes screw up electronic billing, TV, internet, utilities, insurance, credit and debit cards, bank accounts etc.
-Everything takes more time. Learning and staying abreast of changes in Medicare, Medicare D, Doctors appointments and the inevitable problems that occur when USPS forwarding is too slow.
- Time wasted in looking for "things"... Ending up in the garage, or the den, knowing that I came in for "something" but forgot "what".
- Coming to grips with not just memory, but physical things... aches, pains, neuropathy, and (just this year)... noticing a loss of physical strength.
So much more, but the forum is for fun and enjoyment... so will leave it there. Fascinating trip into another part of life.
My sister/BIL are child-free. My sister has also been in significant caregiver role for our grandmother and her husbands parents (at different times since they were divorced). She has been grooming her nieces on her husbands side, and my sons for their eventual roles. She explains regularly that one of the reason she spoils them is so they'll take care of her in her dotage.That's all very well for people who have a daughter (or son), but not everyone does. The only persons other than my (non-existent) children that I would consider trustworthy enough to take over my financial affairs are my seven nieces, but I don't know if they will have acquired any more financial savvy than I have left, when I reach the dangerous age (and I suspect one of them definitely won't, given her track record so far). Besides, they have their own parents, my siblings, to concern themselves with. With anyone else, IMO there is just too much possibility for abuse.
But, when you turn 75 or 80 and have lost a few marbles would you just shrug it off as blather from some young snapperwhipper? How do you mitigate that risk?I do think the letter from my 60-year-old self to my 75-year-old self, reminding me to get everything set up on autopilot before I turn 80, would be a good addition to the investment policy statement.
That's all very well for people who have a daughter (or son), but not everyone does. The only persons other than my (non-existent) children that I would consider trustworthy enough to take over my financial affairs are my seven nieces, but I don't know if they will have acquired any more financial savvy than I have left, when I reach the dangerous age (and I suspect one of them definitely won't, given her track record so far). Besides, they have their own parents, my siblings, to concern themselves with. With anyone else, IMO there is just too much possibility for abuse.
I do think the letter from my 60-year-old self to my 75-year-old self, reminding me to get everything set up on autopilot before I turn 80, would be a good addition to the investment policy statement. Once I get the IPS done and the letter written, I guess I should give copies of both to each of the seven so if they notice me doing anything lame-brained, they can show me the letter.
You're right, maybe I will. You know what the poet says, the best-laid plans of mice & men gang aft aglee. But what else can I do? ISTM that as a childless, single person, I have a choice between having my money managed (when I'm old) by potentially incompetent me and potentially dishonest financial "advisors". Of the two, I'll take me any day, because I'm a chicken, and a lazy chicken at that, and I don't expect that to change. Even if I do lose some of my marbles, I expect to be still too much of a coward to put more than 25-30% of my assets in the stock market, and still lazy enough to get as much as possible of my finances on auto-pilot. And even an honest financial advisor (assuming that in my semi-competent state I can tell the difference between the honest ones and the scammers) will charge me management fees etc that will cut into my return, perhaps as much as my own incompetence will.But, when you turn 75 or 80 and have lost a few marbles would you just shrug it off as blather from some young snapperwhipper? How do you mitigate that risk?I do think the letter from my 60-year-old self to my 75-year-old self, reminding me to get everything set up on autopilot before I turn 80, would be a good addition to the investment policy statement. Once I get the IPS done and the letter written, I guess I should give copies of both to each of the seven so if they notice me doing anything lame-brained, they can show me the letter.
Power of attorney - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
and Attorney in Fact.
IMHO, understanding the many alternatives is very important.
Decision should come early on. Note "Capacity of the Grantor".
This article in the WSJ concerns services that help elderly people pay their bills and take care of day to day money issues, such as paying bills, track medical claims and resolve payment issues. I am not sure I would be comfortable with this myself, but it is an idea.
Conquering Retirement: Hiring a Bill Payer - WSJ.com
Elder abuse is a worry. We will all be vulnerable, some more than others.
Elder abuse - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
t....and some remain in denial, making life miserable for themselves and their family.
We can take care of each other. If we can remember who each other is...I 'm in the same boat but I only have one competent niece, and I am sure she will have her hands full taking care of my older sister who's health is already starting to fail. My executor is sharp lawyer my age, but I doubt he'll be in much better shape by the time we are in our 70s.
There are couple of young dreamers on the forum who've impressed me enough that I might be comfortable giving them control and even willing to pay 1% but that seems unlikely to actually occur.
I think probably some managed payouts funds and pray I don't get Alzheimer are my best bets.