sherrywilliam
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My husband constantly mumbles, moans and groans, and bitches while he is working on something. I try to stay out of his vicinity because it drives me crazy
Married my DH at 19 and he was 21. Knew each other only 2 weeks when we married. He retired in February. I found we need time away from each other. We love each other to the end. We walk 5 miles a day, usually at the nearby mall. He goes way too fast for me, so we walk in different directions until the last round, we walk together.
Married my DH at 19 and he was 21. Knew each other only 2 weeks when we married. He retired in February. I found we need time away from each other. We love each other to the end. We walk 5 miles a day, usually at the nearby mall. He goes way too fast for me, so we walk in different directions until the last round, we walk together.
We have been married 37 years and counting. We are still trying to figure it all out but are having a great time doing it. He is my best friend (but doesn't always hear what I say and repeats exactly that which I had just said). Like I said...still working on the retirement and having so much time together. Fun learning though.
For everyone who talks to themselves or have SO that talk to themselves, what do you or they say? I can't imagine talking out loud to myself when I am thinking it, why do I have to say it out loud?
Do they read out loud too?
Just curious....
If unloading the dishwasher do they say, "the pans go here, the plates here" I guess I don't get it.
Now if the SO other is talking to you and it just sounds like background noise that is another story
Sounds like a perfectly normal guy to me.My husband constantly mumbles, moans and groans, and bitches while he is working on something.
Basically the whole movie "Grumpy Old Men" was based on this premise.According to my buddies at fishing camp in far NW Minnesota, the reason for the elaborate ice fishing houses on the lakes is that they are "marriage savers." In the midst of yet another bitter winter, the guys head out onto to the lake for the day, turn on the heater and the TV, pop open a beer and settle in for another day of wife-less fishing. DW stays home and curls up with a book enjoying having the grouchy old man out of the house. Win - win.
I haven't talked to the DW in the last three days, didn't want to interrupt her.
This is the honest truth here a few months ago, (not married, I have a SO for 9 years) while at a restaurant she was in the usual full blown talking mode. While listening, I needed clarification from a few points she had just said. She told me to quit asking questions as what she was saying not important..."Just listen to what I am saying, it isn't important that you understand it". Lesson learned...I guess....
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This is the honest truth here a few months ago, (not married, I have a SO for 9 years) while at a restaurant she was in the usual full blown talking mode. While listening, I needed clarification from a few points she had just said. She told me to quit asking questions as what she was saying not important..."Just listen to what I am saying, it isn't important that you understand it". Lesson learned...I guess....
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Very appropriate to just be the listener at that point in time. Good job! (take mental notes though..in case she asks for your opinion later)
The OP needs one of these, the Spat Solver.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B2fUHOM_cchvTVEyZXg1aU5jTE0/view?usp=sharing
However I entirely own the "whispering from another room" trait, rather proudly.
It took me 30 years and two wives to really understand this.One of the worst mistakes a man can make is when DW or SO are talking about a problem they are having, the man hero leaps to the rescue and attempts to solve it for them.
They are not inteested in any solutions, they just want to talk about the problem!
Sigh, another one of life's brutal experiences
However I entirely own the "whispering from another room" trait, rather proudly.
It took me 30 years and two wives to really understand this.
This thread is enlightening and hysterical.
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