Monterey298sc
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Can I ask why you don’t want your wife , kids and friends celebrate your life. ?
Honestly, this is one thing we simply do not worry about. Let the estate take care of it.
Can I ask why you don’t want your wife , kids and friends celebrate your life. ?
Just to let you know, in our state the family has the power of the decision. Not the deceased. And no the family does not have to abide by your wishes. I meet family’s all the time that change the pre-arrangements of the deceased to fill there needs, not the deceased.
We have no heirs, or direct family locally. Anyway, we do not want people looking and kissing our remains when we are gone. We have discussed this at great length. Funerals are for the benefit of the living not the dead, if they want to celebrate, then they can do so, but cannot use our remains in the process.
One is supposed to respect the wishes of the dead, that is why we write them down. If we die together, our executer is instructed to dispose of our remains before informing family members. He is a good friend and will do just that.
This x1000. If people knew what the embalming process actually involved, they might not be so keen on having that done to their own (or loved ones) remains. Not only to mention, it's really not a great environmental choice.
Embalming, to protect public health and funeral liabilities. People kiss a deceased all the time.
Yes, there are crooks in every industry. If the steal preneed
Money, they go to jail.
We are a family independent funeral home and since the money is with an insurance company, NOT in our accounts. You can move anywhere and a funeral home in your home town will provide the service and claim the money with insurance Co. So simple. 19,000 funeral homes in the US.
When the time came, it worked out great. As a test for the funeral home, we never mentioned that he had a prepaid plan upfront. When we met with the funeral home, they had everything laid out showing what he had prepaid 25 years earlier. He had a very nice funeral/burial at a cost of nearly 50% less than if we'd had paid for it today. It was a very simple process. We added a few extra items that we wanted.
Honestly, this is one thing we simply do not worry about. Let the estate take care of it.
That was convenient, but it was no bargain. Saving only 50% after they held your money for 25 years was a financial rip-off.
We used a pre-pay arrangement for MIL before she switched from private pay to Medicaid at the nursing home since that was an allowed expenditure under Medicaid look-back rules. But, otherwise, would never consider doing it. There are other ways to get nearly the same convenience for your survivors without the expense of receiving a low return on your money for years.
So burning material gas fossil fuels in cremation is good for the environment?
So burning natural gas fossil fuels in cremation is good for the environment?
So burning natural gas fossil fuels in cremation is good for the environment?
We used a pre-pay arrangement for MIL before she switched from private pay to Medicaid at the nursing home since that was an allowed expenditure under Medicaid look-back rules.
No point arguing with someone who makes their living from the subject under Discussion, they will be biased even if not intentionally. Think Insurance Agent, Re Agent, Car Sales Person, Annuity sales person, the list goes on. This just happens to be a more sensitive subject.
I think Monterey298sc has been very objective and informative, and I greatly appreciate his posts here.
Great idea! I'm going to edit my will to include just such a clause... Barring that I'll be forced to come back and haunt them!That is sad, but good to know, thanks for educating us. We have it covered. If they do not follow our directive and honor our wishes, they will be removed from the will.
That was convenient, but it was no bargain. Saving only 50% after they held your money for 25 years was a financial rip-off.
We used a pre-pay arrangement for MIL before she switched from private pay to Medicaid at the nursing home since that was an allowed expenditure under Medicaid look-back rules. But, otherwise, would never consider doing it. There are other ways to get nearly the same convenience for your survivors without the expense of receiving a low return on your money for years.
Great idea! I'm going to edit my will to include just such a clause... Barring that I'll be forced to come back and haunt them!
Yes, you can do that. What I am saying just about all funeral homes require payment when services are rendered, just like all businesses. Could take months to years to close an estate and a attorney pay a funeral home. This is why funeral homes can’t wait that long for payment. Also I have been involved with estates that we find out 6 months down the road is insolvent. NO MONEY to pay creditors. Another reason payment is required upfront . The person who paid funeral bill will be reimbursed personally from estate when closed.. so your executer will pay from is own packet and be reimbursed from estate if you chose not to pre-pay at a funeral home.