Katsmeow
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taken care of or a place close enough for me to do it seems mandatory.
If I have to go there several times a week, it does not seem like a three hour round trip is going to work out very well.
Definitely something close to you. It will only become more difficult over the years so being close will be a big help.
I may be overestimating their capabilities, or underestimating the speed of decline. Parents have a way of hiding things, so I may not have a full picture. The advice about getting things moving soon makes a lot of sense.
The other thing is that change can come quickly. In early March of last year my mom was living on her own, driving, and about to turn 94. A week later she was in the hospital and then in rehab. She spent the next two months in hospital or rehab, was discharged briefly (no longer able to even be alone, let alone live alone) and then died at the end of May. The decline was shockingly quick.
As far as trying to rent them something, one stumbling block seems to be the need for a walk-in shower. That would seem to limit us to some sort of elderly-care rental place, no?
They probably don't need a walk in shower. My mom moved into an apartment with us shortly before her death. (We were in a short term rental in preparation to moving into a new house). It had a regular tub/shower. We bought a tub transfer bench. Basically one end of the bench is outside the tub and the other end is in the tub. You set on the bench and then slide over (while sitting) to the tub side and do the shower seated. You just have to have a set up where there is room for the tub transfer bench. In many ways it is better than a walk in shower as the person never has to stand at all.