I've been thinking a lot about housing lately, both for myself during FIRE and separately for my parents. Their house has many stairs and other hazards. They are finally acknowledging this (better late than never) and are thinking about a more suitable place while they are still independent. I'm single and happily renting a couple of hours away.
One idea that has come up is sharing a duplex or larger home with some breathing room. From my limited observations, these arrangements seem to work out when they are intentional.
I plan to suggest a CCRC or independent living place for them, but I don't think they will go for it. They seem allergic to renting or anything that's not owning their home. Maybe this is a Silent Generation thing? If they insisted on buying again at this stage, I would pitch in and then sell the place after they are gone.
My main thought now is how to help them live their final years the way they prefer to, if possible. I realize anything can happen at any time and don't want to have false hopes for an ideal situation. Our family dynamic is pretty good, so mentally I think we could do it. I think! For now it's the logistics I'm pondering.
Regarding finances, they have pensions including health insurance, plus SS and Medicare. Their current house is mostly paid off (no other debts). They could afford a CCRC if they wanted to, but again not sure they can be swayed that way.
I'm FI for a lean FIRE and have mixed feelings about buying into a property I would not want otherwise. I'm happy to be near them and look out for them as best I can, but I'm reluctant to have a large home to care for as well.
Any tales from the trenches about this? Just wondering what else to think about if we continue to discuss the shared housing option. I'm already thinking hired maintenance help would have to be part of the plan, not to mention any medical needs they might have. I'm not the best caretaker type, but I love them and want to do what I can.
One idea that has come up is sharing a duplex or larger home with some breathing room. From my limited observations, these arrangements seem to work out when they are intentional.
I plan to suggest a CCRC or independent living place for them, but I don't think they will go for it. They seem allergic to renting or anything that's not owning their home. Maybe this is a Silent Generation thing? If they insisted on buying again at this stage, I would pitch in and then sell the place after they are gone.
My main thought now is how to help them live their final years the way they prefer to, if possible. I realize anything can happen at any time and don't want to have false hopes for an ideal situation. Our family dynamic is pretty good, so mentally I think we could do it. I think! For now it's the logistics I'm pondering.
Regarding finances, they have pensions including health insurance, plus SS and Medicare. Their current house is mostly paid off (no other debts). They could afford a CCRC if they wanted to, but again not sure they can be swayed that way.
I'm FI for a lean FIRE and have mixed feelings about buying into a property I would not want otherwise. I'm happy to be near them and look out for them as best I can, but I'm reluctant to have a large home to care for as well.
Any tales from the trenches about this? Just wondering what else to think about if we continue to discuss the shared housing option. I'm already thinking hired maintenance help would have to be part of the plan, not to mention any medical needs they might have. I'm not the best caretaker type, but I love them and want to do what I can.
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