jollystomper
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I do not flaunt our financial "success" (which is always in the eye of the beholder), but you cannot keep people from reading into what they observe of someone not working, with no desire to work, doing a lot of leisure activities, but living in an (observed) nice home and not complaining about making ends meet.
Interestingly, when I retired some of DW's friend thought she had to keep working because I was retired. When she stopped working this year they were probably more surprised than when I stopped working.
In truth, I get more embarrassed when people think we are in need. For example, last week with DW shook up from a car accident and me under the weather with a non-covid viral infection, several friends wanted to bring us meals. For me it is tough to balance their generosity with our easily ability to just order food for ourselves, particularly when their financial situation is likely not as good as ours. But some folks just have that "servant attitude" without regard to what they might think of someone's finances.
Interestingly, when I retired some of DW's friend thought she had to keep working because I was retired. When she stopped working this year they were probably more surprised than when I stopped working.
In truth, I get more embarrassed when people think we are in need. For example, last week with DW shook up from a car accident and me under the weather with a non-covid viral infection, several friends wanted to bring us meals. For me it is tough to balance their generosity with our easily ability to just order food for ourselves, particularly when their financial situation is likely not as good as ours. But some folks just have that "servant attitude" without regard to what they might think of someone's finances.