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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Some people like to take pictures in front of graves and post it on social media.
When I had my will drawn up for the first time (last year), one the questions on the lawyer's questionnaire was what my wishes were for my remains (cremation or other arrangements). I am not religious so I said cremation was fine with me if that is cheaper or desired for some reason. I won't be here so I'll have no objections. If it turns out that there really IS such a thing as the afterlife, and that cremation was the wrong decision for some spiritual reason, well, it's not like I never made an idiotic decision before.I have visited the graves of a number of my 9th great-grandparents (and at least 4 generations of their descendants), since they are in my town and the town next to me. I have seen the graves of my parents only once, when they were buried. To me, cemeteries are interesting, but not spiritually significant. As for myself, I choose direct cremation and inurnment at the US Naval Academy columbarium. I'm certain no one will ever come to visit.
I used to play in a graveyard as a kid, still like to visit them when traveling. Of course now it's rare to visit as I find not many people think it's a fun event.
There is a lot of history in those graves, and I like to ponder what the peoples lives were like.
DW and I plan to be buried in the same hole. Me cremated, DW conventional. Cremation goes above the casket of the other, so if I go first and get my ashes buried, I will later be exhumed to allow DW to be buried underneath.
My parents, grandparents and some other friends and relatives are buried in a small cemetery a couple hours away. We used to spend a lot of summers in that town, so my siblings and I usually go a couple times a year to plant flowers, but also visit the old town and enjoy the scenery. It's a day trip that involves a lot of nice memories and the gravesite visit is one part of it.