foxfirev5
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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I think your wife is pretty clever. She has gotten you to agree to let her retire and you work an extra year or two. My DW pretty much did the same to me. It just goes to show you that women are truly smarter than men.
I've had far worse performance reviews than what her's sounded like and the thought of immediately resigning never entered my mind. If that's the principal reason she wants to retire, it can only be because she knows she can. The review is being called the "reason" but it's really an "excuse."
She can always pull the plug anytime she wants. I like the suggestions people have given about asking for a package and/or becoming "sick" more often until they take action. Is "sick pay" accrued so she'd get paid for it if she left or is she leaving money on the table if she leaves any not taken? If so, take all of it before resigning.
She may be retiring before me but she also carried the lions share of the household load and raising three kids in addition to her jobs. While I contributed very well financially, my extensive travels had a cost as well. The review certainly would not be the prime reason but a recent contributing factor. The work load and commute are the killers. Combined with a lack of quality time together and we both know its time for a change. She really doesn't need to drag it out. We've been very fortunate and wouldn't feel right about working the system.
As an example when first married we were destitute and even paid a visit to the local welfare office. We were told we qualified for benefits but left the office knowing we could not go with this option. Within a month I got my first real job and we've been working nonstop the last 33+ years.
Thanks again for all the suggestions. As the days go by we are becoming more sure of this decision.