Texarkandy
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I've been telling my daughter for years about the wonderful wedding she's going to have right here in our own back yard (we do have a beautiful back yard) & how I'm personally going to grill the burgers. Oh, & we're going to get the good Chinette instead of the cheap paper plates too.
And then I'll surprise them them with a nice honeymoon vacation & down the road help with a down payment on a sensible house when they're ready. (she's known for years that "Dad's cheap" - DW's been telling her so for years - so that will be surprise)
This of course is having in mind she's marrying a young fella with no kids just starting out like herself.
However, were she 25 y/o & marrying a 40 y/o with three kids I'd probably be quite concerned/reticent about the whole thing & certainly not likely to throw much money for anything their way initially, even for the wedding - esp in light of he makes 100k plus. Maybe 2500 for the wedding & that's it.
BTW - my wedding in 1988 cost about $7 for the license, two moderate price gold wedding bands from JC Penny's (maybe $150 together), & $40 for the preacher (& the preacher was only because I knew my mom would never recognize it otherwise) and a friend from work & his wife for witnesses (note: the witness wife didn't even speak English) We then drove 3 hours to San Diego for a weekend honeymoon - splurged on a fancy hotel at the Embarcadero & went to the Zoo. We were both back at work Mon morning. My mom later held a "formal Gift Tea" for us at her local church on a subsequent trip home & invited all her friends to come & give us gifts (woo-hoo, free stuff - I never knew there was such a thing as a "Gift Tea"). 20 years later we're looking forward to RE & just as married. We still have the same wedding bands from Penny's.
And then I'll surprise them them with a nice honeymoon vacation & down the road help with a down payment on a sensible house when they're ready. (she's known for years that "Dad's cheap" - DW's been telling her so for years - so that will be surprise)
This of course is having in mind she's marrying a young fella with no kids just starting out like herself.
However, were she 25 y/o & marrying a 40 y/o with three kids I'd probably be quite concerned/reticent about the whole thing & certainly not likely to throw much money for anything their way initially, even for the wedding - esp in light of he makes 100k plus. Maybe 2500 for the wedding & that's it.
BTW - my wedding in 1988 cost about $7 for the license, two moderate price gold wedding bands from JC Penny's (maybe $150 together), & $40 for the preacher (& the preacher was only because I knew my mom would never recognize it otherwise) and a friend from work & his wife for witnesses (note: the witness wife didn't even speak English) We then drove 3 hours to San Diego for a weekend honeymoon - splurged on a fancy hotel at the Embarcadero & went to the Zoo. We were both back at work Mon morning. My mom later held a "formal Gift Tea" for us at her local church on a subsequent trip home & invited all her friends to come & give us gifts (woo-hoo, free stuff - I never knew there was such a thing as a "Gift Tea"). 20 years later we're looking forward to RE & just as married. We still have the same wedding bands from Penny's.