Khan
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My wedding (1973) was under $500.
From the little I know.... I think the $20K is what my sister paid for her step daughter a few years ago....
As for how high can they go Let's just say back when I did taxes (early 80s) there was one rich guy who spent $2 million on his daughter's wedding... and he wanted us to write it off as a business expense... the partner had a nice converstion with him about orinary and necessary business expenses...
Did you get stuck with doing the favors, Moe?
DH wanted to do that with the church flowers but I really wanted to leave them to brighten up the altar--guess who won
I had to chuckle to myself after reading this thread...when I figured out whether I was financially ready for ER, I thought I didn't have to budget for a wedding because DD is gay. After reading the NYT wedding section every week lately though, I probably should earmark $20k! Maybe $25k because there might be 2 dresses...although there would also be 2 sets of brides parents...hmm I wonder what the protocol is?
The Law of Thomas... ('the duration of a marriage is inversely proportional to the amount of money spent on the wedding')
Truer words were never spoken.
I think this is a bit harsh. Of our three, one chose a wedding celebration that cost more than $5K. They invited close family and friends and most guests had to travel by air, so DD and SIL felt they should least have a nice party, which they did. They could have used that money in other ways, but they were both working, had no debt, and IMHO the money wasn’t poorly spent - there wasn’t a lot of waste or opulence. Now, 5 years and 1 grandchild later, they have surpassed the blender warranty test as well.IMO. Weddings over $5K turn into bourgeois events, especially when the blender warranty lasts longer than the marriage. There are so many other practical ways to spend large amounts of money.
I had absolutely no idea weddings were so expensive! I think it's very interesting to compare the numbers being mentioned on this thread and the numbers on some of the "what is your annual budget?" threads. The answer in both cases seems to be "anything from $20K on up" with a few uber-frugal individuals citing numbers well below that range and others giving examples of how vast an area is included by those two little words "on up". I'm a total outsider on this one, not married myself and no children, but to me it seems ludicrously disproportionate to spend as much money on a wedding, that will be all over in a few hours, as one would for a middling new car, or a down-payment on a house, or a year or two of college—especially if there's any truth in the "law of Thomas".
You are speaking as a practical person. With weddings practical thinking goes out the window. Logic and common sense are not useful here. Instead you are entering another dimension of time and space - The Wedding Twilight Zone.
Many a young woman, since she was a young girl, has been dreaming of "The Day I Get Married". Ditto for her mother. They have this lifelong fantasy that it will be "The happiest day of my life". So letting something like money get in the way of this lifelong dream just isn't going to happen.
Most guys want to get/be married. But the wedding itself is just something they will have to endure. It's good training for them for what's to come
Still, it is kind of sad and kind of idiotic when people of modest means spend that kind of money (or worse go into debt) on a one day event.
I think this is a bit harsh. Of our three, one chose a wedding celebration that cost more than $5K.
1) get married in the Backyard.
2) Have dad cook up some wieners and hot dogs on the grill. Have chips and RC-cola for drinks.
3) Cake from the local A&P.
4) wedding dress from Mom/Goodwill etc.
5) music from the Boom-Box
6) photos from cousin Earnie
Total cost maybe $300.
Everything else is just fluff. Who are we trying to impress anyway.
it seems ludicrously disproportionate to spend as much money on a wedding, that will be all over in a few hours, as one would for a middling new car, or a down-payment on a house, or a year or two of college.