condolences for bbbami & family. your ability to express such esteem for your fil must be of great comfort to your family.
i spoke to many and read much & even felt it myself at first how death brings some measure of relief from watching your loved one suffer alzheimer's, but no one warned me that afterwards i would forget about the trials of the disease and miss the departed so much that our suffering never mattered.
"off with their heads"~~dr. joseph-ignace guillotin
"life should begin with age and its privileges and accumulations, and end with youth and its capacity to splendidly enjoy such advantages."~~mark twain - letter to edward kimmitt 1901