setab said:
...I am really tired of people asking me to do things for them, "because I don't work anymore." I don't mind helping some, but I didn't retire so I could handle all my friend's and relative's Honeydo lists...
There are two kinds of friends: Friends that like you because of your company, and friends that like you because you do things for them.
I've shaken off a few "friends" when I told them I just couldn't loan them money anymore or I just couldn't babysit their kids every other Friday. Without their use of my money or my time, they have no need to be "friends" with me.
At the same time, I've made new friends that do things like invite me to their parties or I ask to go fishing with me.
Reminds me of this scene in The Godfather:
Corleone: We've known each other many years, but this is the first time you ever came to me for counsel or for help. I can't remember the last time that you invited me to your house for a cup of coffee, even though my wife is godmother to your only child. But let's be frank here. You never wanted my friendship. And uh, you were afraid to be in my debt.
Bonasera: I didn't want to get into trouble.
Corleone: I understand. You found paradise in America, you had a good trade, you made a good living. The police protected you and there were courts of law. And you didn't need a friend like me. But uh, now you come to me and you say - 'Don Corleone, give me justice.' But you don't ask with respect. You don't offer friendship. You don't even think to call me Godfather. Instead, you come into my house on the day my daughter is to be married, and you, uh, ask me to do murder for money.