Teacher Terry
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In the past 4 years we have had 3 good friends need help. We started helping all 3 of them but eventually they all needed more help then we could do. We ended up exhausted and there are 2 of us to help. One was a couple where she had Alzheimer's and he had terminal cancer. Finally I put the wife in a care home and he went to live with his son until he died. My other friend belongs in a home but won't go ( her MS has gotten so bad). I backed off from taking her to appointments 3x's week to picking her up for lunch, etc a few times a month. Her one other good friend keeps enabling her by buying all her groceries, etc. They want her to go into a home too but I don't think she will until she is forced to face reality. As long as they do everything she won't. We dropped out in Jan so more burden is now on them. It can get to be a tough situation that can snowball before you know it. Then it can lead to resentment.
