stargazer08
Recycles dryer sheets
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My younger sister has a son who is in his first year of college. They pushed him to go. He is very smart but socially shy and introverted. I believe he is studying engineering. He is doing fairly well after the 1st semester...only failed one class (English). Here is what I said to her after a rough Christmas break where he gave them some grief and said some hurtful things about wanting to "disengage" from them.
I'd have to say the hardest part of being a parent is stepping back and letting them fly. Sometimes they soar, sometimes their flight feathers haven't come in and they tumble to the ground, and sometimes they start out strong and then forget to flap their wings and end up on the ground. We are always there in the background to pick up the pieces - if they let us.
I think we as parents need to step back and let these young adults make their own decisions. Giving guidance and suggestions is fine but in the end, we need to let them test their wings. It is their life to live and be responsible for.
I have 2 adult daughters who both went to college. They each choose their field of study. I had different career paths mapped out in my head for each but they went their own way. Hardest thing I ever did was zip to my lips and let them make their own decisions. In the end, we can't live their lives for them...nor would I want that responsibility.
I'd have to say the hardest part of being a parent is stepping back and letting them fly. Sometimes they soar, sometimes their flight feathers haven't come in and they tumble to the ground, and sometimes they start out strong and then forget to flap their wings and end up on the ground. We are always there in the background to pick up the pieces - if they let us.
I think we as parents need to step back and let these young adults make their own decisions. Giving guidance and suggestions is fine but in the end, we need to let them test their wings. It is their life to live and be responsible for.
I have 2 adult daughters who both went to college. They each choose their field of study. I had different career paths mapped out in my head for each but they went their own way. Hardest thing I ever did was zip to my lips and let them make their own decisions. In the end, we can't live their lives for them...nor would I want that responsibility.