We got married right after my wife graduated from college as her parents would not pay for her to continue her education if she got married when we wanted to. They thought the only reason to get married was to have children. We suggested another reason, ie., being in love but we were rebuked with "That's not a reason." We are childfree to this day, about 45 or 46 years later. My parents said they would pay for my education no matter what I did but failed to keep their word.
We thought my wife's parents were wrong but we are big believers in The Golden Rule so we waited until my wife finished her degree.
My bride was 21 (Graduated in three years with a BS in Education. She was motivated.) and I was 22. It turned out that I had to work full time and pay for school by using job benefits despite my parents giving their word. I got a BS in Comp Sci about 6 years later. My wife later got another BS, also in CS.
My MIL bought us our rings at a now-defunct discount dept. store called Best. My wife's cost $19.00 and mine was $23.00, engraving included. They are white gold and very slim and plain. My wife's engagement ring was the twisted-into-a-round-shape iron wire from a Baggies brand twist-tie. She loves it.
We couldn't have afforded them otherwise. Our honeymoon was three days on Chincoteague Island, Va, a six-hour drive away, where we had met at 16 and 17 while camping during summer vacation with our families. We got married on a Friday to save money. I had to be back at school for final exams on Monday. My wife's parents paid for everything except our honeymoon. We were then and continue to be, grateful for their generosity. We had a chocolate frosted yellow layer cake at the reception that cost about $25.00, IIRC. We had no alcohol or bar as it cost too much and my parents drank too much. My wife had two of her uncles who were Catholic Fathers perform the ceremony. They bitched to each other about the lack of alcohol. I used to have remarkably good hearing. Almost everyone who attended said it was a really nice event at which they had a good time and everyone agreed that it was the best wedding cake that they had ever had, even to this day, 42 years later. We think the comments were sincere.
We wear our rings all the time. I don't care whether we do or not but it's important to my wife's picture of what we should do, so I do. I did not wear mine for about 3 or 4 years when my finger swelled during my pre-transplant diabetes-induced kidney failure. I cut it off with pliers. After my transplant my wife got the ring repaired and resized and I continue to wear it. It does not affect my behavior. I will do what ever my wife wants me to do if it makes her happy.
We are now 64 and 63, have been happily married for 42 years, and I think the secret is to be tolerant, meet before your whole personality is formed so it still can be affected by the other person, and not think of one's spouse as a sex-object but as a person. We both think that you don't really bond until you have suffered together and overcome mutual setbacks and bad things and events together in life.
We have never been happier. I am, as always, happy. I was born with a happy attitude and only two things have ever really bothered me deeply: When my dog/daughter Emily Ann, passed away in 2009 and the fact that I am getting closer to my own death. We had no children and thus had a really strong bond with our dog. As for my own demise, I have a strong desire to live forever but realize that is probably not going to happen. I was literally weeks away from death in April, '96 but received a timely Kidney transplant from a very generous family whose daughter was killed.
I literally have lived an extra 22 years of extremely happy bonus life and I tell my wife all the time that if I were to die right now I would be content and have had happily, as my mother used to say, "Played the hand I was dealt."
Mike D