ivinsfan
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@kitesurfer2.. Wow so sorry for that loss, it must be so hard to just have to stand by and watch something like that happening.
552 calories per day is quite a bit.Researchers knew that just about anyone who deliberately loses weight — even if they start at a normal weight or even underweight — will have a slower metabolism when the diet ends. So they were not surprised to see that “The Biggest Loser” contestants had slow metabolisms when the show ended.
What shocked the researchers was what happened next: As the years went by and the numbers on the scale climbed, the contestants’ metabolisms did not recover. They became even slower, and the pounds kept piling on. It was as if their bodies were intensifying their effort to pull the contestants back to their original weight.
Cahill was one of the worst off. As he regained more than 100 pounds, his metabolism slowed so much that, just to maintain his current weight of 295 pounds, he now has to eat 800 calories a day less than a typical man his size. Anything more turns to fat.
. . . . While many of the contestants kept enough weight off to improve their health and became more physically active, the low weights they strived to keep eluded all but one of them: Erinn Egbert, a full-time caregiver for her mother in Versailles, Kentucky. And she struggles mightily to keep the pounds off because her metabolism burns 552 fewer calories a day than would be expected for someone her size.
my sister was 650 lbs at the mortuary. No one knows how much she weighed when she was admitted into the hospital 3 weeks prior to her death. She was not given any food for those 3 weeks. She avoided exercise at all cost her entire life. I pleaded with her many time to draw the line. She didn't. She died at 60. the doctors told her if she did not lose weight, she would die before 50. in her mind, she beat it because she lived past 50.
You got to draw the line! 10 over/100 over? i personally draw the line at 10 lbs. Then it's ATKINS time.
And I'll add the comment that anyone who think weight issues don't sometimes come with huge mental stumbling blocks needs to put themselves in kitesurfer2 shoes. This would be no different then a drinking or drug addiction death.
Back to the OP question:
Maybe they're afraid I will eat them.
Or sit on them?
OK, that was flippant; but there is this. My fat relative introduced me to two fat-advocacy web sites, where, during a discussion of how much they hated thin women, one of the posters announced that she wished she could get all the thin women into a room and sit on them.
At first I found this funny, but later, I felt a little scared. Is that really what some people are thinking as they walk around looking at others?
I think that people who do not have another person's problem (obesity, poverty, low IQ, etc) tend to compare themselves and feel smug about it. And smugness brings with it a sense of self-righteous judgement and arrogance. To me it comes across almost as narcissistic personality disorder which results from a fragile self-esteem belief system.
I guess I would say that someone who has difficulty with another's weight may have their own low self-esteem issues to worry about. And I feel smug about that.
And I think it is smug to assume that "people who do not have another person's problem (obesity, poverty, low IQ, etc) tend to compare themselves and feel smug about it"! And I mean that seriously.
I see people with problems I don't have. I wish they could overcome them. I understand it might not be easy, and it might be very difficult, but it is rarely impossible.
Last year, I worked on losing 20 pounds. It was not easy, I really had to be aware of every meal, every snack, and consider how much I was eating. For me, it was more about consistency, constant monitoring. I've kept that weight off. I ate about half what I usually would eat at most meals, and pretty much still do.
For others it may be much, much harder. Their brain may drive them to feel hunger more that I do. I don't know.
So please don't call me smug, self-righteous, and arrogant - that is offensive.
Are people smug about people who are starving in 3rd world countries, or smug because they don't have cancer or malaria? I just don't get this train of thought.
-ERD50
Yes...people are smug about someone else's misfortune, like 3rd world hunger, cancer and malaria. It makes them feel better about themselves for some strange reason.
has introduced me as Anna Rexia. .
I think that people who do not have another person's problem (obesity, poverty, low IQ, etc) tend to compare themselves and feel smug about it. And smugness brings with it a sense of self-righteous judgement and arrogance. To me it comes across almost as narcissistic personality disorder which results from a fragile self-esteem belief system.
I guess I would say that someone who has difficulty with another's weight may have their own low self-esteem issues to worry about. And I feel smug about that.
Anorexia is a serious mental illness that people must struggle to overcome. It can be deadly. Tell her It's not funny and to knock it off.
I think that people who do not have another person's problem (obesity, poverty, low IQ, etc) tend to compare themselves and feel smug about it. And smugness brings with it a sense of self-righteous judgement and arrogance. To me it comes across almost as narcissistic personality disorder which results from a fragile self-esteem belief system.
I guess I would say that someone who has difficulty with another's weight may have their own low self-esteem issues to worry about. And I feel smug about that.
And I feel smug about that.
I feel for you and I have seen families with large weight differences between siblings. But just "taking" her comments is how bullies are born.Can't you just say "I don't make comments about your weight and I'll thank you in advance for not making comments about mine." Or perhaps you already limit your time with this sister because of the way she talks to you and she thinks you avoid her because she is fat. I wouldn't enjoy spending time with someone who treated me like that.