Maybe but at this point the guy can't pay for a gallon of gas or a carton of milk. The IRS will have to get in line.
My things about opening them is that he's put all things money related in complete denial for at least 3 years. He's talking out of his hat when he thinks he can keep his house.
Eventually he will likely sell the house on his own. He will decide he needs whatever equity is left after the tax authorities take their share. At that point he can move into subsidized housing and live on his social security check. He will not wind up in the gutter. The tax authorities will not imprison him. Bankruptcy or insolvency will wipe out most of his debt.
not a good situation, but not dire either.
The IRS is first in line. Thet have the power to take and use repossession of all his assets and throw him in jail.
Diabetes is a risk factor for dementia, so he may be physically incapable of the thought process required to handle his own finances these days. We've seen one one of our parents and now several friends and neighbors go through the slow cognitive decline. They all had relatives to step in and take over at some point. Does the friend have any family members who could be contacted?
AARP has free tax help for low income seniors, though your friend's case may be too complex for that kind of help at this point.
Diabetes is a risk factor for dementia, so he may be physically incapable of the thought process required to handle his own finances these days. We've seen one one of our parents and now several friends and neighbors go through the slow cognitive decline. They all had relatives to step in and take over at some point. Does the friend have any family members who could be contacted?
AARP has free tax help for low income seniors, though your friend's case may be too complex for that kind of help at this point.
And I'm not touching another piece of his paperwork.
I wonder if you are connected enough with his friends to call them and get them all to stop helping all at one time. Basically, an intervention. If everyone stopped engaging with him then maybe he would have to realize it was him. I’m no expert and would probably consult one but something like a joint communication from all of you. You’re sick, you need help, we’re here for you when you accept that you need help. Until you accept professional help, we’re all sorry, but we just can’t enable you any longer. Then shut off all help and only communicate with laser focus on how he’s doing coming to terms with his addiction.
As a practical matter, as has been said, you’ve done all you can and you can walk away knowing you did all you could and more than most. Best to you in however you proceed.
Yes Brau .. I know myself and today I can't say I won't try to help him "one more time".
We (all his living relatives and friends) basically boiled it down to
"We will give you the following kinds of help (quite generous) but only if ..."
We had to go with this "tough love" approach because nothing else had worked. He simply blew us off and refused to agree to any conditions for receiving help, so we felt we had no choice but to cast him adrift. That was two years ago and so far he is still surviving.
OP's friend is crazy, from the repeated descriptions of his actions and demeanor.
When a person is insane, even if he commits murder, the law does not hold him responsible. That's what craziness is about.
How is anyone going to help an insane person? Tell him to act responsibly, to be an adult? If he were normal, he would not be crazy, would he?
I hear you and it's sinking in...
A long slow self inflicted death spiral from someone you care about , or anyone I guess is hard to accept and even harder to watch.
Acceptance is a hard thing...thanks for reminding me what's really going on here. I know it's not rational to think this is fixable.
No, I don't blame you for trying. I would have to try before giving up.
But then, once one has gone as far as you did for no results, he has to ask if he is to try again, what different approach or method would be needed to change the outcome.
I was trying to convey the man's lack of sanity to other posters, who blame the man for not taking responsibility, and that he has to change.
But of course! Now, how do you get an insane man to stop being insane? Grab him by the shoulder and shout in his face, "Stop being crazy"?
He needs incarceration. He needs clinical help.
Some problems aren't pull yourself by your bootstraps type problems...I think some Type A personalities have a hard time accepting that idea.
My friend has an MD that has prescribed him 60 Ambien a month for years ...that's not my friends fault that's on the doctor.