We sent my daughter a text message saying "Hi Jenna and John we missed you last night hope you are feeling better. We would like to stop over and give you some stuff including yuor scarf. Let us know." She wrote back "I'm very disappointed w u and don't want to see u now. U can drop my scarf off in the mailbox."
Needless to say, that will be our last overture to her. I am afraid only Godly intervention will help at this point. Oh well, I guess the Christmas checks will not be cashed. Seriously we won't play her game. At this point she will have to seem genuinely appreciative to get anything for her wedding.
"Well, we are very disappointed in you, too. But we'd love to see you when you have decided that $2500 is all you're going to get and that you'll be darn grateful for it. The offer of the $2500 is good until 01-31-09. After that your future husband will have to pay for your princess attitude and your dream wedding.
PS - Your scarf is now a chew toy for the dog, who appreciates it very much. He wasn't expecting anything and seems to love us unconditionally."