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Maybe, if I paid the bill directly without giving that person any money. I'd give a homeless person a gift card to a restaurant before I'd give them cash. You don't know where the cash really goes unless you follow the money to exactly where it's supposed to go. Again, that's a big "maybe"
When people ask me for money in the street, I assume they ask because they need money and I almost always give them some. I never ask what they plan to do with it, as, in my view, a gift has no conditions. Yes, I have been roundly chastised by friends for doing that.
Once, about 25 years ago, some guy approached me in the parking lot as I was leaving work for the day. It was cold and snowing like crazy. He asked if I could spare a dollar and, even though I didn't ask, told me "Look, I'll be straight with you; I'm going to buy booze." I replied "Well, you're not going to get much for a dollar" and gave him a ten. It was worth it just to see his shocked expression.