Eagle 43
Obligatory cards with pseudo feel-good messages are hypocritical. Now we do the phone calls on the "big" days to friends and relatives. Real communications instead of fake commercial crap.
I agree totally!
We are in our 16th year of PT'ing. We organize our calendar differently than most people, I suppose, because it is arranged around "high-season, low-season, malaria season, rainy season, dry season, bird flu season, Chinese New Year, Balinese New Year, Buddha/Thai new year," etc. We don't include a "shopping season" in the mix!
Back in the 'olden days,' when we first started, we and our families made huge attempts to continue celebrating the holidays no matter what country's borders separated us. I can't tell you how many gifts were snatched at the custom's location on their way to us... (boooo).
The one's that arrived (YAY)
we had to physically carry thousands of miles by train, plane, boat, bus and taxi (booooo)
to get them back to the States.
Now, I shop all year 'round and in whatever country I am in, and bring presents when I arrive to visit. All presents are lightweight, small and preferably non-breakable (gems from Burma, weavings from Laos, silk robes from Thailand, etc.) We then celebrate any or all occasions I happened to have missed.
When I originally asked the question about how much a certain holiday costs us, I didn't mean just the current ones of Christmas and Hannukah. There is a holiday of one sort or another each month, (Valentine's Day, St. Patrick's Day, Mother's/Father's Day, the 4th, Memorial Day, Labor Day, Halloween - and some in between, including birthdays, graduations, anniversaries and baby showers) ... Not to mention the 'pay back' dinners or club and work related events...
I admit, it might be a personality flaw, but I simply can't keep up with it all. I don't want a storeroom stuffed with paper shamrocks, santas, pumpkins and hearts. I can't party on each of these holidays and maintain my sanity. It is easier for me to admit that I am a (happy) aberration than to try and fit in.
On the other hand, I am free to celebrate because it's Tuesday or a half-birthday. I give when there is genuine need, or when moved by my heart. I don't subscribe to calendar induced guilt, and I free you from the same!
Akaisha, (one happy wierdo)
Author,
The Adventurer's Guide to Early Retirement
www.RetireEarlyLifestyle.com