Apologies for some TMI backstory ... I've always been a social outgoing guy. When I started at Megacorp I made a bunch of deep friends, many of whom I still stay in touch with 40 yrs later. I really enjoyed getting together with my buds for cookouts, skiing trips, etc.
Then I got married. I loved her dearly but she was an introverted hermit. I wanted to spend all my time with her, and that kinda pushed my friends away. Then we had kids and I focused all my energy on them.
Then 13 years ago, she dumped me and took the kids with her.
I spent about 2 years in a black depression, but eventually I crawled out of the hole. I'd lost close touch with most of my friends -- many had moved away. I was self-employed since 1990, working out of my house, so I didn't have much contact with new folks. Eventually I discovered Meetup.com and started connecting with a bunch of new friends.
Then I got 2 forms of cancer and Covid hit. With immunity issues, I basically hid in my house for 3 years. There went the social circles I'd started to build.
Now the cancer is in remission and Covid is basically gone. I've re-joined some Meetup groups but haven't made any strong connections -- it seems harder post-Covid. I do stuff at the senior center and the health club, but that's mostly a "hi, I recognize you" level of connection. No real friendships yet.
No better luck with romance. I've wasted too much time on every online dating service you can name. I've worked with a couple of matchmaker services and those were actually fairly good, but no magic yet.
Whine whine whine. Poor me. Bottom line is, I'm lonely. I spend too much time in my house by myself. Retirement would be a lot more fun with a partner-in-crime and travel buddy. I really loved sharing my life with a loving partner, but that's hard to replace. Even connecting with new friends is challenging. I'm starting to look for volunteer possibilities.
What are your favorite ways to connect with new people? More than "I recognize you," more like "Haven't seen you in a while, c'mon over and we'll throw some steaks on the grill."
Then I got married. I loved her dearly but she was an introverted hermit. I wanted to spend all my time with her, and that kinda pushed my friends away. Then we had kids and I focused all my energy on them.
Then 13 years ago, she dumped me and took the kids with her.
I spent about 2 years in a black depression, but eventually I crawled out of the hole. I'd lost close touch with most of my friends -- many had moved away. I was self-employed since 1990, working out of my house, so I didn't have much contact with new folks. Eventually I discovered Meetup.com and started connecting with a bunch of new friends.
Then I got 2 forms of cancer and Covid hit. With immunity issues, I basically hid in my house for 3 years. There went the social circles I'd started to build.
Now the cancer is in remission and Covid is basically gone. I've re-joined some Meetup groups but haven't made any strong connections -- it seems harder post-Covid. I do stuff at the senior center and the health club, but that's mostly a "hi, I recognize you" level of connection. No real friendships yet.
No better luck with romance. I've wasted too much time on every online dating service you can name. I've worked with a couple of matchmaker services and those were actually fairly good, but no magic yet.
Whine whine whine. Poor me. Bottom line is, I'm lonely. I spend too much time in my house by myself. Retirement would be a lot more fun with a partner-in-crime and travel buddy. I really loved sharing my life with a loving partner, but that's hard to replace. Even connecting with new friends is challenging. I'm starting to look for volunteer possibilities.
What are your favorite ways to connect with new people? More than "I recognize you," more like "Haven't seen you in a while, c'mon over and we'll throw some steaks on the grill."