MC Rider
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..... Some of the divorces and "crazy exes" (why, by the way, are they always crazy?...............
Yes they are. Sometimes on both sides. Mine was a long time ago, We got along like Ren and Stimpy.
..... Some of the divorces and "crazy exes" (why, by the way, are they always crazy?...............
Yes they are. Sometimes on both sides. Mine was a long time ago, We got along like Ren and Stimpy.
I know myself pretty well at this point, and I agree about people becoming set in our ways (the ways that have worked for us up to this point).
My issue, which Aerides alludes to, pertains mainly to people who can't let go of old wounds. I have met a stream of them. Some of the divorces and "crazy exes" (why, by the way, are they always crazy? Did someone drive them there, or do people routinely marry the insane?) turn out to have been 12-30 YEARS ago! I conclude that many older people, knowingly, or not, like their "martyr crowns" too much to move on.
Ballroom dancing, if one enjoys it, is a great way to keep your brain sharp, stay physically active, and socialize with people (and, gasp!, even touch them). A win-win-win.
After a 16-year relationship ended, I took up ballroom dancing. To get up to speed (=learn the steps to ~20 different styles of dances), I was taking group classes at nearby studios 3-4 times a week, plus going to an 'open dance' once or twice a week. I even went to several week-long dance camps. This all was great fun until I started spending 6-7 winter months in Florida. And then Covid hit.
I found many other things to occupy my time and I haven't been dancing since. If I had a regular dance group or partner, I'd be up to going dancing again.
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Ballroom dancing is great. Where else can you walk up to a woman you don’t know well, put your arms around her, tell her what to do and when to do it, and she is perfectly happy to comply??
Primarily emotional, along with financial.
6'3", slim, healthy (cancer, but in remission). I hike and bicycle, play pickleball. Starting a weight-training program to beef up my aging muscles a bit.Do you work out and eat healthy? The key to romantic matches are a well built physique. There is lot of competition out there.
About to turn 67. Not rich but quite comfortable. Live in a town of 160k. I belong to half a dozen Meetup groups for hikes, happy hour, dancing, etc. Used to be very active in a cooking/dining group, but that group fizzled after about 5-6 years.I don’t think you mentioned age, financial position, or interests as well as are you in a rural area or are you in an area with lots of opportunities for recreation?
6'3", slim, healthy (cancer, but in remission). I hike and bicycle, play pickleball. Starting a weight-training program to beef up my aging muscles a bit.
About to turn 67. Not rich but quite comfortable. Live in a town of 160k. I belong to half a dozen Meetup groups for hikes, happy hour, dancing, etc. Used to be very active in a cooking/dining group, but that group fizzled after about 5-6 years.
I don't know my body fat %, but it's low. I'm 6'3" and 182 lbs.
I was 6'4" for 50 years, but at the last few doctor visits they said I'm under 6'3". Apparently the "senior shrink" has started ... I'll see if some dead hangs can stretch me out again.
I've taken several dance classes (mostly blues), but not salsa. Might be fun!
Not even 3. I had very little chest musculature before, and much less after losing 15% of my body weight to cancer. I'll try to build it up again but that's an uphill battle.
I don't know my body fat %, but it's low. I'm 6'3" and 182 lbs. I just started the weight training. I really don't expect to get ripped. Skinny guys like me tend to have trouble bulking up, even when they're young and still have some testosterone. Now, I mostly just want to improve my strength and balance, and prevent any more senior muscle atrophy.
I was 6'4" for 50 years, but at the last few doctor visits they said I'm under 6'3". Apparently the "senior shrink" has started ... I'll see if some dead hangs can stretch me out again.
I've taken several dance classes (mostly blues), but not salsa. Might be fun!
I had problems rebuilding my strength after being down and out for about 4 months due to an injury. After listing to Peter Attia talk about the need older folks have for more high quality protein I added a whey protein shake (milk, cashews, fruit, whey powder) to most day's food consumption. Without enough protein the body can't add muscle. In fact, if the protein deficit is big, the body may consume muscle for other uses. I also started drinking more milk which is high in protein and calcium. In the past few weeks my push-up count has started to finally rise. But, it has taken a lot of work to get there.
To balance the shake's extra calories, I cut whey back on alcohol to keep the calories balanced.
The best way for a guy to meet women is to take a dance class. There is always many more women than men. And then when you learn a few basic dances, you will be very popular. I suggest taking swing classes, easy to learn the basic steps and easy to dance to a lot of different songs. Plus dancing is fun and good exercise for your body and mind.
Yeah and easiest to hook up. Many are looking for short term flings.
I met my DH at a dance, he is an excellent dancer. We have now been married 51 years.
The social question is one I’ve been having as well since all of my good friends still work and have kids etc. I’ve tried to remedy this by being proactive and go out of my way to meet them where they are able.
I just joined Toastmasters both as a way to meet people and work on my fear of public speaking. I don’t have any speaking planned but thought why not? I’m also going to take a pottery wheel class and am looking into tai chi. These are all things I have never tried, so I’m trying to find new interests that may have a social component.
Yeah and easiest to hook up. Many are looking for short term flings.