Vincenzo Corleone
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My wife had gone on a baking spree this holiday season, making all sorts of goodies. The plan was to bring the baked goods to a family gathering so we can all enjoy them together. We ended up with so much that we decided to give some to our neighbors. Up until today, we never exchanged more than a brief greeting when we crossed paths with our neighbors, and we thought it this would be a nice, friendly gesture. So we prepared the little packages of goodies and left them on our neighbors doorsteps.
Due to unforeseen circumstances, the family gathering didn't take place, so my wife and I are spending a quiet Christmas by ourselves this year. A little disappointing, but we're making the best of it. She made a great Christmas eve dinner of rack of lamb which we enjoyed with a nice bottle of cabernet.
Anyway - as we were calling it a night, I went to take the garbage out when - to my surprise - I found a couple of gift bags with bottles of wine in them - from our neighbors. I'm confident we would not have received them had we not left them the baked goods, as we never exchanged anything in prior years.
I find myself feeling disappointed. Not because the bottles of wine were not of good quality or anything like that. It's because of the spirit in which it was done. It's obvious to me that my neighbors felt obligated - like they're keeping score and they don't want to feel things are "uneven". So they grabbed a bottle of wine they had lying around that they didn't mind parting with, shoved it in a bag and made things "even". I would have appreciated it more if, when we crossed paths again, they expressed their appreciation and told us that they enjoyed the things my wife baked. I wasn't looking for a "payback". We don't keep score. It kind of cheapened the gesture.
These feelings really caught me by surprise - I didn't expect to feel this sense of disappointment. Am I nuts?
Due to unforeseen circumstances, the family gathering didn't take place, so my wife and I are spending a quiet Christmas by ourselves this year. A little disappointing, but we're making the best of it. She made a great Christmas eve dinner of rack of lamb which we enjoyed with a nice bottle of cabernet.
Anyway - as we were calling it a night, I went to take the garbage out when - to my surprise - I found a couple of gift bags with bottles of wine in them - from our neighbors. I'm confident we would not have received them had we not left them the baked goods, as we never exchanged anything in prior years.
I find myself feeling disappointed. Not because the bottles of wine were not of good quality or anything like that. It's because of the spirit in which it was done. It's obvious to me that my neighbors felt obligated - like they're keeping score and they don't want to feel things are "uneven". So they grabbed a bottle of wine they had lying around that they didn't mind parting with, shoved it in a bag and made things "even". I would have appreciated it more if, when we crossed paths again, they expressed their appreciation and told us that they enjoyed the things my wife baked. I wasn't looking for a "payback". We don't keep score. It kind of cheapened the gesture.
These feelings really caught me by surprise - I didn't expect to feel this sense of disappointment. Am I nuts?