Death of a spouse...and a different story...

[aja8888]

A lot of men don't want to remarry or be caretakers either.

Exactly, I did that for several years for DW until she passed. The real problem, if you are interested in finding a new mate, is finding one that is in great health and physical condition at an advanced age.

 

[Chuckanut]

A lot of men don't want to remarry or be caretakers either.

If you have caring loving children, and some extra cash, the caretaker issue is not quite as big.

 

[youbet]

Sounds like my 90 year old dad. What is the age difference with your dad and his friend? My dad’s friend is 20 years younger. Hopefully they will just remain friends.

Both are deceased now but they were approximately the same age. They were together from approximately 70 to 83 years old when my dad died. He left her about 10% of his small estate and I got the rest.

 

[Koolau]

I think a lot about this subject these days. Not so much the "replacement" part but simply that we are now at ages that suggest we should both become prepared for the inevitable. Of course, who knows? We could both live 20 more years. Heh, heh, not sure I want to, though.

 

[ERD50]

Exactly, I did that for several years for DW until she passed. The real problem, if you are interested in finding a new mate, is finding one that is in great health and physical condition at an advanced age.

Or at a young age! Why not?

 

[aja8888]

Or at a young age! Why not?

Haha....you mean I would become a "Sugar Daddy"?

 

[ERD50]

Haha....you mean I would become a "Sugar Daddy"?

It can be a tough job, but someone's gotta do it!

 

[dmpi]

It can be a tough job, but someone's gotta do it!

Thank God for ED drugs.

 

[FloridaJim57]

Been married 44 years to the same lady. I don't know what I would do if she passed first and I really don't see the benefit of thinking about it.

 

[FlaGator]

Good plan, from experience. If you unfortunately find yourself in that situation, there will be time to think about it and figure out the path forward.

 

[ugeauxgirl]

I was a financial advisor before I retired and saw several men remarry quickly after a spouse's death. I never saw a woman do that. I'm 8 years younger than my husband and in much better physical shape. I'm very likely to outlive him and don't see myself marrying again. Could be just the phase of life I'm in (still teenagers at home) but I'm tired to death of taking care of people.

 

[Dtail]

Haha....you mean I would become a "Sugar Daddy"?

Remember Sugar Daddy's could take out your teeth.....

 

[Teacher Terry]

I was a financial advisor before I retired and saw several men remarry quickly after a spouse's death. I never saw a woman do that. I'm 8 years younger than my husband and in much better physical shape. I'm very likely to outlive him and don't see myself marrying again. Could be just the phase of life I'm in (still teenagers at home) but I'm tired to death of taking care of people.

After my kids grew up I divorced their dad and I was so sick of taking care of everyone that I didn’t even have a plant for a few years). The teenage years are hard. I have only known men to remarry quickly too. I did eventually remarry but it was 6 years later and I was only 50.